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writes:I’ve been in a long distance relationship for about 1 year and a half now. I love him dearly and we’re planning a future together sometime in the next year. I’m working out the details of moving to be with him. Anywho, long story short, he lives with his parents and has a great deal of respect for them. They are very strong Christian people! They knew about me from the first day, and last week I actually went to meet them. They know me and my boyfriend have met numerous times now, but last week was the first time meeting them. I think I made a really good impression on them. The dad was a bit skeptical I could tell because I’m not as serious of a Christian as they are. I go to church sometimes and I have my beliefs in God and Jesus and Christmas and miracles and etc etc etc. I’m just not EXTREME about it. They’re the kind of people that read their bible’s every evening. Nothing wrong with that of course, but I’m just not that way. The mom seemed to warm up to me, we went out to eat a few times for some one-on-one time. My boyfriend sent me a text after one of the lunch’s saying “my mom thinks you’re very nice and well-mannered” so it couldn’t have been that bad right? :DThis morning, I was supposed to go to Church with them, something I agreed to and was looking forward to. But I had to leave their state (about 6 hours away from my home) to get back home since a snowstorm was coming in the evening. I hate it that I missed Church with them… but I am responsible enough to take my safety into question. They weren’t bothered by this, at least that’s what my boyfriend said. I still feel bad for not saying bye to them. I was thinking that I would write them a ‘Thank You’ note, thanking them for their hospitality in showing me around the city and opening up their home to me to visit, also evening inviting me to church with them. I’d like to include my phone number and my email address too, just in case they wanted to chat with me about my beliefs or something (I got the impression the dad wanted to size me up in some Jesus-Jeopardy type convo) which I have no problem with. I’d actually love to talk to them more, maybe impress them a little more so they feel more comfortable with me. I want to add in something about maybe planning another trip in January or February if it’s okay with them and maybe attending church with the whole family, something to that nature. But I’m stuck. How should I start the note? Or how should the note be written? I’m terrible with words! Is it even a good idea to send such a note to your boyfriends parents after meeting them? I want to come off as respectable but not a kiss-ass.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (13 December 2010):
Yes Yes Yes. Definatly write them a note. They'll love it.
A suggested skeleton of a letter would be like this.
Dear
I'd like to thank you for the wonderful...
I'm sorry that we couldn't go to Church together but I hope we'll be able to do it another time. .....
........
Looking forward to seeing next time I visit
Yours truely
Start off and finish formally but write how you'd like in the middle. It can also be short if you'd like. Just the thought that you'd do this, will be more than enough. Get a friend to check it for you. Good luck!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 I think sending a letter (not a note) would be a nice thing to do and I am sure they would appreciate it.
Dont worry about not being good with words - all that matters is that it is spelt correctly and that you write from the heart so it is believeable. Try including the following points in the following order:
1. Thank you for a lovely visit and your hospitality, I thoroughly enjoyed being shown around the city and spending time with you both.
2. I am very sorry I could not make it to church with you on the Sunday (insert comment about the snow, at this point could be a little joke about the weather etc or just telling them how bad the snow was etc).
3. XXX (boyfriend's name) and I were talking about me possibly coming up to visit again in January/February if that would be ok with you? It would be great if we could all attend church together the next time I am there as I would very much like to experience a service with you all.
4. End the note with "here are my contact details (phone & email), I would like to keep in touch between now and my next visit so please feel free to drop me an email or give me a call." If I dont speak to you before my next visit then merry Christmas and I look forward to seeing you again soon.
That should just about do it! Dont make the letter too long, and dont try and suck up to them too much. Just keep it informal, light and happy. Maybe even writing this in a card rather than a letter would be a good idea - you can get lots of nice 'thank you' cards which are a nice way of writing something without it being too formal in a traditional 'letter' format.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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