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writes:My boyfriend and I were together for 7 years. Last year we decided to split up. We did have a few problems, but I never thought they were massive problems (e.g. he liked to party a bit too much!). I thought we could try and work them through.When we split though, he starting seeing someone straight away. This really upset me but forced me to deal with the situation and try to move on.This girl isn't really his type so I can see this was just a rebound thing. As I started to move on, he drunkenly told me he was still in love with me and hadn't dealt with the break up at all. He asked me to stay over.I said no.Since that happened he's been acting really happy with his girlfriend and been acting really weird around me (she has no idea, and thinks he completely devoted to her). He was supposed to see me for a really important event and he made various excuses, of which I'm not sure any were true.I still care about him lots but I can't keep having him act so weird like, best friend one minute, couldn't give a shit next minute, and 'the one' the minute after that. But the thing is, I would still get back together with him. If he was willing to work through the problems.Shall I cut my ties from him completely? Have another talk with him? Give him an ultamatum - me or her?Thanks for istening:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Original Poster:Thanks for the answers. He did it again this weekend. He told me he was going to come out for a group dinner with our mutual friends. He never showed, and didn't text. The next day, he text and acted if nothing had happened. From what I can understand is he wants to stay friends but gets freaked out everytime we hang out together. I had kept my distance since we split, but he would text me, or we'd bump into each other. But, I'm going to follow your advice and try for a more complete seperation.Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): Cut him loose- he needs a COMPLETE separation from you to even begin to deal with his mess. ZERO contact of any kind, let him fall, let him address his issues and if he can get his act together then maybe there's a future with him for you.
the WORST thing you can do is to stay in touch with him right now, as it puts him (in his state) in limbo between two women.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 Cut off all ties with him and ignore him for awhile and he will come crawling back to you .When his mind becomes clearer, he will pine for you again.
A person's emotions are like a rising tide. When he is low, he will reject you whatever you do for him and when he has high tide, he will want you back.
It is only a matter of timing. If you want him back , you will have to wait for his high tide.
If he loves you he will take everything you throw at him. If you chase after him , he will run further away from you .
Don't issue ultimatums,it will surely drive him away from you .
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