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writes:So I was just sat here having a little think, reading some questions and I had a thought, that maybe I should wait until marriage to have sex. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, we haven't done anything particularly sexual, and we don't intend to have sex for a good while yet, a couple of years probably. But I've just thought that although I don't think anything will happen to us, I don't want us to end up breaking up and then me be left having had sex not with the person who I would marry and have children with. I've always believed that sex is for someone you truly love and I've never wanted to 'waste' my first time. But my boyfreind is the first person I've discussed sex and marriage and children with so I think our future is quite secure. The problem is, if I decide to wait, we won't be getting married until we're well into our twenties because we both want a stable home and a fair amount of money before we commit (he wants to be an accountant and me a teacher so univeristy etc is going to take a fair amount of time) but I'm convinced that if I decided I wanted to wait, he wouldn't keep me. I think it would also make the first time more exciting if you've waited all that time. I think I want to wait but I don't want to lose him, whar should I do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the newest answer, I don't really understand what you mean by your last two sentences?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): if you both have trust in each other then discuss your matter with him, he will guide you right!you both will know the reality of trust between both of you.if you save yourself and wait, will he afford you after your targets?if you cant save your virginity, he will save you by taking your virginity or he will make you free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): Hi. I was 25 when i lost my virginity. And I always always always thought that I would wait until marriage. I was a good girl and believed that marriage was the right way to go...until i met the guy i lost it to. I met him randomly in a night club, and he turned out to the the younger brother of one of my good friends. I just felt it with him. I felt this insane attraction and this like, soft feeling with him. My head wasn't cloudy or anything, I was both totally in the moment and knew completely what i was doing. And he didn't pressure me or anything. Needless to say, i lost it to him within a week, after all that time waiting (25yrs!), we were together a year until we broke it off, and I still to this day do NOT regret him being my first. He was so good to me. I say if you feel it, just go with it, stop overthinking it.
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