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writes:Back in December of 2008 I reconnected with my high school sweetheart. We have not had contact since 1993. I was browsing around on Facebook and found her. I thought that it would be nice to catch up on old times with her. I knew that she was divorced and seeing someone else. We are from a very small fishbowl like town. We had both moved away and came back. When we first connected on facebook it started as just chatting back and forth online but with in a few days we were talking on the phone. She had some serious health issues that required major surgery where her survival was not a very good odd. She was concerned enough about dying that she had made arrangements for her daughter to be taken care of in case of her death. Anyway she recovered from her illness and had about 6 weeks of time off from work to heal. I was driving a truck and and never in town but we spoke for hours on end on the phone while she was off work. By the middle of Febuary she had decided that the her fiance' that she had been with for 7 years was not the right person for her and she ended things with him. We had both discussed the feelings we had with each other and how they were growing. We did decide that while she was involved with him that it wouldn't be a good Idea to see each other.Well after she ended it with him we imediately saw each other and very quickly professed our love for each other. Then She decided that 7 years was to much to throw away with the other guy and decided to give it one more shot with him. So I backed off. But she says that she can not handle me not being in her life. Needless to say we went through this process back and fourth several times. And now she has decided that she really wants to work on things with him and worked toward marriage with him. WEll ever since we first met face to face again we have had been intimate with each other. The sex is great and gets better everytime. We actually lost our virginity to each other way back 18 years ago. But anyway I expressed to her that I wanted to be her lover and wanted to be in her life anyway I can. SHe agreed to it, which I was not expecting at all. So we are now lovers and sneek around behind her boyfriend's back 2 or 3 times a week.I know I am taking a big risk emotionally with the way I am handling things, But I Love her in a way that is just overwhelming. I do know that she Loves me to. I know as she has told me as well that I give her something in her life that she has never felt and that is passion. Right now there is no hope for me as to have a normal relationship with her. Her BF does know about me and does not care for me at all(which is understandable)And he does know about a the indiscretions she had with me while she was "working on things" with him. I am open to suggestions and also wondering, Should I be patient and wait for him to find out about this thing me and her have going this time, SHe has stated that if he ever catches her with me again that he would not ever forgive her and she pretty much will default to me and me alone. I know this BF of hers is a good guy they are just not meant to be in my eyes anyway. What will it take for her to realize that. She is in Love with both of us. I have never been torn between two people like she has but I know it is difficult for her. Am I being selfish for doing what I am doing and hoping she gets caught? I am wrong. She has also stated since her daughters father has never been consitent with her that the BF has been there for 7 of the childs 10 years that makes it hard as well. Somebody help me.!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so confused!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, passion1123  +, writes (10 October 2009):
Its all about her calling the shots.U have to just wait and watch.Do nothing.Let her sort out this for u-good or bad way.
U cant be a party to solve this coz u would help her only to ur own advantage and therefore it would be hard for her to take ur advice.
All u can do is just staying in love and make her constantly feel what is it to be with u.
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reader, IsItreal? +, writes (10 October 2009):
IsItreal? is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did leave my job driving a truck cause she said it would make things easier fpr us to be together.
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