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writes:I am seperated from my husband and i have 2 kids.I have been seeing a man for over 2 years,he hasnt any children and he works away during the week and comes down to see me weekends.I want him to move in with me but he doesnt really want to because he isnt used to kids and where he lives,he has his own space.He said he is difficult to live with etc.He says he loves me but his work in the air force takes him away alot and he said that when he takes early retirement and the kids are older then we could live together.Is he making excuses up/It seems a long time to wait for some one? Shall i wait for him or should i just walk away? Reply to this Question
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reader, shania +, writes (28 November 2005):
 Sounds to me like he doesn't really want to commit to you. You have been with him for two years and i guess your wondering where this relationship is going? In your eyes has it come to a stand still? Its naturally,that you want to take it one step further but if his heart not in it and prefers things the way they are then you have two options.1st one is wait until he changes his mind but i doubt that he will.You come as a package and if he doesnt want to live with you because you have kids,do you really want to be with a man who doesnt want to include your children in his life? 2nd option,you can walk away, move on, because it sounds to me like you have doubts anyway. If this man lives away all week and sees you at weekends, what is he moaning for? He still has his privacy but yet doesn't want to compromise and live with you at weekends. I think after 2 years you would expect some kind of committment, trouble is he just doesn't want to live with you and the kids are the excuse. Remember,there is many men out there who would fall in love with you and gladly take on your children,your man doesnt.
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reader, watrbot +, writes (27 November 2005):
That is something that only you can decide. It doesn't seem to me that he is making up excuses, sounds to me like he is being honest with you. Kids are a big responsibility and maybe he is not up to that. Has he lived by himself for awhile because I've been living with my daughter for two years now without a man and to be honest I don't know if I could ever live with another. Besides the fact that you are still legally married- maybe that has something to do with it. He works all week and stays with you on the weekends- I think he wants his space when he need privacy and we all know that when we have children, there is no such thing as privacy. I personally wish there were more men like him.
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