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writes:I'm getting depressed , My crush is military and recently deployed right now, he's stationed far from where I am. Before he left, I email him wishing luck and asked him a rhetorical question as how many people does he know that care for him as I do.... so for him to keep in touch with me and he said although he'll very busy this days (he'll be back in a month) if he has a chance he'll write and we he gets back he'll definitely be in touch. Was he polite, honest and we've being in touch for a year now...and I don't know or think if we ever get anywhere ,what in your opinion should I do? Should I leave him as penpal after all? I really like him though....but I guess that's not enough. Help before I get depressed!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): I know where you're coming from. I am going through the exact same situation a year and a half now. It is a tough situation -there is no question- and I have my ups and downs, but I love my boyfriend, we've been together 6 years now. I have my doubts and sometimes I can't take the pressure of waiting anymore, I suffer from not being with him, I miss him and I long to him. But then he emails me and says how much he misses me.Believe your boyfriend when he says he'll contact you. Men don't waist time if he didn't want to keep in touch he wouldn't have told you he will. Let him know how much you miss him and how much you can't wait to hear from him and to see him. Write him a love letter or email him.Good luck
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 If you REALLY like him, and aren't planning on breaking off with him, LET HIM KNOW! I don't see the harm in sending any love letters overseas!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (6 April 2008):
The common theory is that you should never break off with your military man while he is off on assignment, just out of concern for him and kindness. Imagine, if YOU are depressed being here alone, how depressed and DISTRACTED he would be overseas and brokenhearted while serving his country. It could be VERY dangerous for him. Wait until he comes home.
I would respectfully suggest that if you aren't in a small town that would report back to him, go on with your life as if you are a single woman (be discreet) and break it off with him after his tour of duty is done. I'm certainly not sitting in judgment on you, because personally, I have NO idea how difficult it would be to be in your shoes. God bless all the partners and spouses of all of the troops overseas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to mentioned it's 15 days now that he has been gone and no news, I'm worried. But the truth I don't believe if he will write actually. Idk!
I just hope he will write when he comes back. I called his office without knowing he was gone, and the person who answer me told me he'll be back arounf the same time he said so. I want to believe him, but I'm being disappointed too many times now, that will actually hurt if he deceives me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to mentioned it's 15 days now that he has been gone and no news, I'm worried. But the truth I don't believe if he will write actually. Idk!
I just hope he will write when he comes back. I called his office without knowing he was gone, and the person who answer me told me he'll be back arounf the same time he said so. I want to believe him, but I'm being disappointed too many times now, that will actually hurt if he deceives me!
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