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writes:Hey, So there is this guy I met over the internet and we mailed each other for quite some time until I asked him if we could meet, which we did.To sum it up it was wonderful for me and he said that he enjoyed the day, too.Problem is that he is leaving the country in two months (for half a year) and we live in different cities (2h distant) and therefore doesn't want to begin anything now. He already had such a situation, his then girlfriend leaving. I don't know if he was serious (but I guess he was) when he said that if both of us had no relationships when he would come back that we could try it again. In the meantime we want to keep contact (FB).I just don't know how to deal with the situation because I never felt this way for any other guy before although I'm not that young anymore. That day was just perfect and I really like him and probably a bit more than just that.I don't know what to do, should I tell him? But that wouldn't change anything, it would probably just make things worse for both of us. On the other hand, I can't tell for sure if he really likes me that way.I honestly feel torn apart and don't know what to do anymore. What should I do? Wait six months running the risk of waiting for nothing? What would you suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): Never wait for a man. Especially when he isn't even asking you to. Whatever his reasons he has made it clear that he isn't interested in a relationship right now.
He already knows you have at least some interest in him or he would not have mentioned the possibilities when he returns.
Save both of you an awkward situation. Don't tell him you're falling for him. It is far too soon for that anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): It is difficult isn't to make a decision when there is not much time. The very best suggestion I can make, is to take one half day off to sit and really deeply ponder on your future, ignore any fears that crop up and just really think about your feelings and if they are based on a whim - which can all have at times and can feel like the real thing.
Or if they are based on a reaction to something deeper.
If it is the later then, you will be able to decide the best way to move forward..which might include, a gentle but persuasive (not needy) approach to this guy such as, well you know good opportunities only come around once in a life, if you feel you might like to have another date before you go and see if there is anything there - I would be open to that.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 Listen to what he has said. He does not want to leave a girl behind. He has done it before, and it did not work.
Keep in touch and give it time to let him go.
Date other people. You do not want to put yourself on a shelf and wait for a "maybe". LIVE your life and live it well and happy. You may not meet someone you like as much, you may meet someone just as lovely or gasp! BETTER!
If you truly are BOTH single when he returns and it is meant to be...make your CHOICE then.
Best Wishes.
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