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30-35,
*bb78
writes:i met this guy, i didn't notice him at first, but after he gave me signals tht he's interested in me, and everybody says so, i'm starting notice him, but he never says a word. until one day he finally asked me some random things, and asked for my number. now we're living in a different country, long distance. he asked me my number, but never texted me, i'm the one who made the first move texting him. and all my friends told me to be patient and keep texting him because he's shy, bla, bla. what should i do? should i wait, move on or keep texting him?
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (14 September 2011):
 He never initiates contact because he doesn't have to. You always do. I wouldn't initiate contact with you, if I were him. You have set the precedent here. You are the 'pursuer'. It's more fun to be pursued than to be the pursuer. Why would he change things?
If you want him to pursue you, then you have to stop texting him… and run the risk that he might not get in touch.
I think he will get in touch, but that it will take some time initially. First he will wait for you to get in touch, then he will realize, oh - she hasn't been in touch for a while - then he will consider whether or not to get in touch and then he will contact you.
But if he doesn’t, what does that tell you about his interest in you?
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reader, bbb78 +, writes (14 September 2011):
bbb78 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@lola1thanks for the answer!! =) i'm sorry maybe my explanation is not clear enough, i forgot to mention tht, he is replying my message nicely, n excitedly, it's just he never starts =(
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (13 September 2011):
You should stop texting him. Shy or not, he would have responded if he was interested. Disregarding your initial text was not a symptom of shyness. It was a rude signal that he is not intersted.
He's in another country now, anyway. What do you think can come of this, realistically?
If you continue to text him, you will, at best, appear too interested and needy, and at worst appear like a stalker.
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