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writes:Well you see I met this marvelous guy he's sweet very hot and honest.Well ppl (family friends etc) used to tell that he was very agressive like he was pretty much an asshole.Anyway he would always take me out and be so romantic with me.But then I felt as if something was missing like I had no such excitment like some wild excitment.Then after I met this guy he was sooo handsom he was funny charming like he had soo much excitement (and yes you pretty much know where this is going).Anyway I got in to arguements I would always be the one yelling and he would talk in such a calm tone.Until I went out and I saw the guy!.He had asked me what was wrong i told him about the argument and then we talked for soo long that he would in straight saying that i was beautiful and that he wants me soo badly all of a sudden we kissed and my boyfriend went outside looking for me and he saw us kiss!! when he did he went berserk! he attacked the guy i kissed.Then he looked at me with such a demonic look and said" so this is why you argued with me this is why YOU GO OUT!" I started to cry begging for him to forgive me he did not until this day i have realized that i am truely in love with him!. He soo wild and so agressive it makes me feel all tingly and hot also i discovered i liked agressive guys when i called him he would hang up and sort.Until i called today he said that he will think about us getting back but now i am afraid that i might lose this wild demonic beast i saw in him.And start to see the same sweet mellow guy i mean i'm afraid that i might lose that part of him.Also we did hang out and somehow i think that he won't change and remain the way he is agressive wild BEAST!. I'm sorry i made this story sooooo long but i need advice should i wait and see if he can have the agressiveness yet sweet self combined or am i asking for too much?thank you for reading ^^ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey it's me again thnx for your response and i spoke to his parent and they said that over the years his heart became kind and more of a sweet person.Also i talked to him about it and he said that seeing us kiss is what made him return to the way he once was were back together and i love him ALOT more now cuz he has both he's agressive yet sweet. thnx for the advices ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Tell him what you told us. Maybe he's naturally aggressive, but holds it in "to please u". It might work. He might feel free to act the bad-ass rather than the mature one, especially if it leads to some hot sex shortly! Acting can be a great way to fulfill a relationship without bad side-effects - so long as both people are honest with themselves. Many guys fantasize of french maids and sex slaves & love to play act.
But you're likely right. To see the aggressive side, you might have to make him jealous. That is a recipe for a really BAD relationship. A dangerous one. Better to look elsewhere for you combo.
Look around. You'll find lots of a**holes who are aggressive. The problem is that they're a**holes.
One long-term solution, for yourself, is to grow up, start liking stable and mature guys. It will likely happen sometime. In the short run, keep looking for that combo of sweet and sour. Maybe you will find it.
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