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writes:I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about three days ago, and I am now just starting the very hard, heart-breaking and emotional healing process.Every time I log on to the computer, I have the urge to check her Facebook page, to see how she's doing and what she's up to.I like to make sure she's doing okay. Reading her status updates also reminds me about how incompatible we were. Her status updates do not really resonate with me.Should I un-friend her from Facebook so that she doesn't have the tendency to pop into my head everytime I logon? I figure I can always add her as a friend later once I am completely over the relationship.Thanks for your help.
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reader, willi.joe +, writes (25 April 2010):
delete her ASAP.....n may be you can tell her that you are feeling awkward to see her in FB so i guess it would be easy..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): I went through the same emotional heartache via facebook two years ago.
You should delete her, however, if you just can't let go quite yet, you can always "ignore" her status updates. Simply click on her status on the home page, and hit "ignore." Then, as you heal, you can delete her [recommended] or keep on ignoring her.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (25 April 2010):
Yes, wipe all traces of her out... you need to start the healing process as does she.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 If you think it is finally over with her and you cannot control yourself looking at her status,you can remove her from friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Just delete her profile - she hurt you, and as hard as it is, erase her from your life and move on. If you have an uncontrollable desire to check her page, deactivate your account - facebook is a magnet for trouble and upset in these situations! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Personally I have a really hard time erasing people out of my life I know I must move on from. When it comes to FB, emails, etc etc. I have my friend log in and do whatever I need to be done whether it be delete them, change settings, save pictures (bc i dont want to delete them but know if i ever need them in the future it is restorable from my friend).
Not having constant pop ups and reminders makes having them out of your head a lot easier.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 My advice is yes, remove her. You need a clean break to properly start the grieving process.
You arnt getting over her are you, as you have said you always look at her status. So you will just keep hurting yourself until you make the break.
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reader, sostupid +, writes (25 April 2010):
Hi,
sorry to hear. I didn't unfriend the person I didn't want to look at. I actually deactivated my FB page. I know you might not want to do that, but it helps actually. You will stop obessing. I think that if you unfriend her, you'll go nuts and want to refriend her. Then when you do she is going to think you are nuts... just deactivate your account for a while. Month maybe? It helps. When you do that, it actually stays there and you can log in whenever you want again. You can still recieve emails from FB. It doesn't delete your account. It just says you are no longer on fb but you can get back on whenever you want!
Even if you do it for a week. AND, when you reactivate your account, it doesn't announce to the world you are back. only if you post something. :)
Don't let FB consume you. It's not worth it.
Good luck.
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reader, Cupidexpert +, writes (25 April 2010):
Yesss!!! Delete her phone number too if you can!! Delete her texts, clear out her calls from your phone, burn her notes your pictures! Erase everything that reminds you of her NoW!!
If you don't do this ASAP, this will take you forever to get over her. The sooner the better!
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