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writes:Ok so I met this guy online around 2 and a half years ago and for the first few months we talked every day (some days for hours some days not very much) but as friends. He was just someone cool to talk to and chill with, nothing more and I wasnt looking for nothing more either.Well one day I realised that I have feelings for him, like I lusted after him but I never let on and in my head I was like he's to nice a guy to let something silly maybe ruin our friendship. Well around 2 months went by then I realised I no longer lust after him, im in love with him.I eventually gained courage to tell him but every time Id say I... I would pause and end the sentence stupid until one day I did it.And his response was perfect he was quiet and I didnt know what to think but I could tell he wanted to tell me something and then what felt like hours later he told me how over the past few months he's wanted me to be more than a friend and that he's fallen for me and then he too eventually said I Love You back!Well since that day we have been talking every single night with a minimum of 4 hours per night. Some days we actually talk for like 10 hours.Anyways truth is I adore this guy, I truly can see myself living with him for the rest of my life but I dont know what to do here.I live in the UK and Im 20 years old and Im not 100% sure what I plan on doing with my life but I am currently in university studying law.He on the otherhand lives in Canada and is 18 years old and in his final year of high school getting his last 2 credits so he can graduate.We are complete opposites. When it comes to what we want in life he doesnt care where he lives or what it looks like as long as he has enough money to pay for it and me...I want a nice house and to decorate it the way I want to and it to be in a nice neighbour hood and well im much more high maintence than him.And I can talk about anything...not saying I can talk about anything to a great length but I can put some input whereas games is his life. He can only talk about games.And he even said last night that we've talked for soo long that we know each other inside and out and that theres nothing left to talk about really because he finds talking about his day boring. However even with that said we both still seem to conversate for hours and I truly couldnt tell you what about because I dont know but we do. Must not be important conversations anyway if I dont remember myself, but we still talk none the less.Ever since I was a little girl, Canada has been the place Ive wanted to move to. Ive never been happy living in the UK, you could ask anyone who knows me and they will all say I want to move to Canada. So its not like its a big problem that he lives there because its where I truly want to be anyway.Although I dont think I can get there under a skilled workers visa as I lack the requirements.But I dont know what to do!!Should I try forget about him and slowly remove myself from him and just put up with what I have here? or should I try move over there? I dont know! Im not sure what Im suppost to be doing!But having been in love with him for soo long and not actually being with him is beginning to kill me inside. I feel lost with every aspect of my life right now.Anyone have any advice for me.... I truly would appreciate it.And thanks for reading =)
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 It wouldn't be a bright idea to pick up and move over there..You have never met this guy, you don't even know if he's who he says he is. Just curious why hasn't he flown out to meet you yet? Or vice versa? So it wouldn't be a bright idea to pick up and move over there. Plus, you know you have to have a work visa in order to live there but even then that's only for so long. And you lack the requirements to apply and get approved for one. My advice since you are still young is to figure out what you want to do with your life, if you see him in it I suggest you apply to uni and start figuring out your major. Then after you graduate apply for a work visa, but I will say Canada will put you through some more schooling of their own which takes about another year. (Happened to my friend) Within that time I suggest you meet this mystery Canadian face to face, see if he's the same in person. Or the other option is after he graduates, he could apply for a work visa and move to England..then you can start a proper relationship.
As I said before, meet him in person first..before you start jumping the gun.
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