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anonymous
writes:Just over 3 weeks ago I was on a dating site I occassionally visit. I normally go on and wait for guys to approach me (even though I don't usually have any interest in the guys who do) but on this occassion I decided to message a guy 5 years younger than me. I have no idea what made me do it, there was just something about his picture and info that made me want to.We started to chat and about 45 mins later moved on to MSN and started using webcams to see the other one (no funny business though). We didn't talk over it, just chatting and seeing the other one. We then started chatting that way for about 5 hours every day, about everything live, previous loves, interests etc. After 5 days I gave him my phone number so he started to call and text. We've booked a hotel for January to meet up (we live a few hundred miles apart). It's got to a stage where my family know about him, his family know about me, we text all day long, phone at night and go on the webcam for several hours. I think about him all the time and we've told each other that we love the other. We've had silly conversations about "what if" i.e What rings would we get if we got married, what would we call our kids.I'm so happy and never felt I'd feel this way.My question is do you think I should just go with it and fall hopelessly in love with this guy or do you think I need to start getting my feet back on the ground?I am happy to go all the way for as long as we last but my family and friends are obviously more sceptical.Any stories, opinions and advice appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): Well I'm back from the weekend. It wasn't love at first sight exactly but it was still an amazing weekend, I can really see a future with this guy and to be honest that scares me a bit because I had almost given up on all that.
We'll see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Thanks for all the great advice. Only 3 days to go now until we meet and we are both really really keen to get over this last hurdle. If the meeting goes as well as we both hope I have a feeling things could get very serious, very quickly!
I will update this once we've met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): I disagree with Ed1337, if your happy in the relationship you have a rite to feel love struck! Enjoy every minute even if it does'nt work out coz thats what lifes about. Taking risks and enjoying them.
All the best xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Thanks for the response. I know I should but I can't seem to help myself.
Only 10 days now until we meet so hopefully it will go well and become an offline relationship.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (30 December 2008):
 If i'm honest I really think you need to keep your feet on the ground, i've learnt that people aren't always what they seem to be.
I also met someone on a dating site recently, I chatted to her on IM all day and texting all night. I thought I had finally found that special person, then one evening she tells me her ex wants to get back and she still has feelings for him.
This guy you are chatting to might turn out to be Mr Right, but it seems a lot of people who use dating sites have hidden issues which come to light later on. Don't get too carried away and always stay in control, if you expect anything funny just walk away.
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