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writes:So I have been seeing a guy since December and recently we got closer and I started to have strong feelings for him , he tells me he loves me despite I don't really feel he does, but I always say that people express it differently and I don't wanna have such thoughts because for me I have seriously strong feelings for him and I feel like he can be my forever ( is that weird or too soon ) but I can't stop thinking about the future with him, even wanting to marry him despite the fact I hate marriage. He has been telling me his family problems and he told me about his brother's battle with psychological issues, everything he told me about his brother I could relate to at a stage of my life but when he was talking it sounded like he did not quite understand. I wanna make him understand mostly for his brother's sake but it's making me feel as if I'm intruding myself upon his life and space and I'm not sure how he will perceive that, like we haven't known one another for the longest amount of time, but does time really matter? It feels like the right thing for me to do but I don't want to be shut down just for trying to do something good Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 April 2017):
 If it feels like the right thing to do then go for it. It might make him understand more, but it will also allow him to see that you have fought a battle along with many others and came out the other end. I don't see how any harm could come from talking to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2017): Your question sounds a bit like you're asking whether you should tell him that you have/had psychological issues present or past. If this is the case will you feel comfortable telling him? What if he reacts in a less than positive way? You could feel quite vulnerable disclosing something so personal to him. I quess I it really depends how close the two of you are and how much both of you have opened up about personal issues. My concern here is you mentioned that you feel he's not being sincere when he says he loves you. If that's the case, you might want to hold off a bit longer on this self-disclosure until you feel more secure in the relationship. In the end you'll have to go with your gut on this.
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