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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Should i try to get back together with my ex? The only reason we broke up was because I moved to another state and we thought long distance wouldn't work. Before we broke up we were really close and didn't have any real problems. We trusted eachother and loved spending time together. We communicate almost the exact same as we did before. He still tells me that he loves me and i do the same. Its been two months atleast and i dont think either one of us is trying to move on. He even calls my mom his mom and makes sure that i tell the family he said hi. The only difference now is the few hours between us.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 I think my anwer is not what yoou'd like to hear but, in my opinion, no, you should not try.
long distance relationships are demanding both practically and emotionaally and are hard to substain even for much older guys and girls. I am afraid that, at your age, the complications would just make it a very frustrating, unfulfilling experience. Like : I guess neither one has or drives a car. How would you travel to meet each other ? Who'd pay for travel expenses ? How often could you visit him- or viceversa, how long could you stay, wouldn't this coming and going affect your school life ? Of course you might just stay in touch even daily by phone or e'mail, but eventually wouldn't this just fill you with longing and sadness ?...
I am not saying that's impossible to have a long distance relationship. I know a guy from Africa who came to my country in Europe to work and save some money - he stayed nearly 4 years without ever going home to see his gf. But she had been waiting for him and when he got back they got married. This guy, though, was 30 y,o, and had been engaged 8 years. So,totally another level of committment and maturity.
Cheer up sweetheart. I know it sounds unfair being separated by someone you love just because of circumstances which you can't control. But things have a weird way to work out for the best eventually so maybe if life is forcing you to give up this guy it's just because it has someone even better in store for you...
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