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writes:I recently took an adult-ed class in my town. I have the strong feeling that this woman in the class thinks I'm a freak or something but I'm really not. For one thing, she said to me that she had lost my e-mail address and when I said we could still get together for our mutual interest she quickly declined. (I was like, why tell me she had lost my e-mail if in reality she didn't want it? I hadn't brought it up and it was so long ago I had forgotten I had given it to her!)Anyway, the other thing was one night I asked how her kids were (I have some myself) and she gave me this look and response like "why the F are you asking about my kids?" I honestly thought most people liked to talk about their kids! [BTW between these two events she had made small talk with me.]Anyway, I told my wife about this and she thinks the best thing to do is not ask this woman anything about what she said and just be polite to her, in part so she doesn't start making up rumors about me. But I kinda want to ask her what's up, so hopefully I can clear things up and she doesn't start saying weird stuff about me behind my back and also because I was offended by it.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (7 November 2013):
Why do you care what she thinks about you? Are you concerned what other people in the class think about you?
Why are you so interested in her?
Stay away from her. She sounds a bit unstable. I think she could casue you damage to your reputation in the class. Focus on the other students who are willing to develop a positive healthy relationship.
Good Luck in your studies.....that is what you are there for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2013): Sounds to me like she thinks you 'might' be hitting on her, and she doesn't want to give you any mixed signals, or for anything to be misinterpreted, so she is giving you a strong brush off. Don't take it personally, she is likely to be making sure she is loyal, and not misleading to you. Due to past experiences, if I ever feel a man is hitting on me, I will make sure he realizes in no uncertain terms, I am not interested.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 November 2013):
 Sounds like she thinks you are hitting on her. Maybe she isn't comfortable with men she barely knows asking about her kids.
You know nothing about her life - who knows maybe she has an abusive ex-husband.
It could just be that she has NO social skills and can't read people, so she is taken aback when someone is trying to "socialize" with her.
You might be trying to be friendly, but she DOESN'T WANT to be friends.
Either way..... My advice, listen to your wife. LEAVE the woman alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2013): If you ask and she gives you an answer there are two possibilities:
1) There was just some misunderstanding but she doesn't think there's anything wrong with you
2) The answer will just be awkward and you won't be able to talk to her ever again after that because it's too awkward from an honest answer.
Perhaps she thinks you are trying to cheat on your wife if you're asking to go places with her? I don't know I'm young and haven't been in this situation but generally if you think things might be awkward asking about it will only make it more so.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 November 2013):
Sounds kind of like she's the freak! Some people just don't have good social skills or they're just weird. If I were you, I would just ignore her and not talk to her unless you have to work with her on something.
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