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writes:My girlfriend won't come anywhere near me.She treats me like some sort of idiot. We have been together for some 8 months now and haven't slept together. She has had quite a few previous sexual partners, myself having had only 1. Recently she got drunk and stayed in a hotel room with another guy, after buying sexy underwear (which she doesn't let me see her in). I don't know if they had sex or not but now i'm not sure if i can trust her.What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the replies. I confronted her about the matter and she just told me i was reading too much into it. I do love her, but now i just arent sure at all. I'm pushing myself away slowly to avoid us both getting hurt, but i think i may have found somebody else.
Once again.. Thank you guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): I agree. Dump her. Quick. No need to explain yourself, just say "we're done."
She's treating you like a doormat and not showing any respect. It sounds like she's literally seeing how far she can push you.
If you want respect you have to demand it, and no self-respecting BF would even begin to tolerate what she's already done to you. So you dump her and that's all there is to it. You won't get her this way, but you would have have gotten any decent relationship with her by staying with her either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Dump her. Quick. No need to discuss it fully with her -- simply say, "We're done." You know ALL the answers already. She will know why you dumped her, without her even asking (... she may even think that you're not as dump as she thought). If she wants to suck you off, let her, and then dump her, but I wouldn't bet on it. You're being so used.
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reader, JockoJ  +, writes (10 April 2009):
Sounds like she's not the least bit attracted to you. You probably spend a lot of money of her trying to buy her affection. If she's taking sexy underwear to a hotel room with a dude she's having sex. Either you are an idiot like she treats you and you're not really her girlfriend and haven't figured it out yet or she's just totally using the crap out of you.
It's unlikely you can earn her respect back either. If she won't have sex with you just dump her. If she will, always remember what she is, never give her anything and just get all you can until she catches on that she's not going to be using you anymore.
This is a bad girl either way dude. Protect yourself, don't beg, cry etc. Make sure you don't lose your dignity. (If you already haven't.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!
It's just so hard, i love her very much.
I completely agree with what you are saying though.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 April 2009):
This looks very very bad.
Are you sure you two are even boyfriend / girlfriend??
I go and get drunk with male friends but I wouldn't stay in a hotel room with them because it's just not done when you are with someone.
I really think you need to ask her why she is with you and see if she wants to continue of if she is just using you for something else while having all her fun with other guys.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): The question is why are you with this girl? She treats you like an idiot (I'm sorry, but these are your own words) and in 8 months you haven't had sex? This is just unheard of. Obviously she does not love you or appreciate you, she must be using you for something. I am not sure what it is but obviously not sex, which she probably gets somewhere else. You need to move on and find someone who will treat you nice and be there for you. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but I think it's the only solution.
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