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writes:hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it was because i classed her as cheating it was nothin psysical it was just constant texting n callin etc from another guy... and i couldnt take that not because i was insecure its because she started acting funny and all that malarky... and now she has a boyfriend n i dont wanna her to do the same to him even tho the bloke is a.... well we wont go there! Now my question is... if she is still with him n tryin it on with me am i rite in thinkin that the saying 'once a cheater always a cheater' is true or do i take it as she really wants to be with me?Here's a text word for word of wht she said.. to help you help me!.... (Yes i know there is still something there, i've been waiting, hopin you have feelings for me again but i never thought i hear those words... as for (the other bloke who split us up) i dont what i was doing i was just in a really bad place... n i miss u 2 honey xx)Many thanks
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 Exactly...."I can not get so close to you and so attached to you, if you are going to stay with him."
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reader, Steve0 +, writes (15 March 2008):
Steve0 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Exactly what I was thinking... unless I tell her only if she breaks up with her boyfriend...
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (15 March 2008):
Don't go. I think you brought up a very good point about having a great time and then her possibly going back to her bf.
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reader, Steve0 +, writes (15 March 2008):
Steve0 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk another question she has asked me to away for the weekend with her... do i go or not?? she is still witht tht guy and i dnt wanna have a good weekend n thn sh turn around an jus nahhh n go bk to her boyfriend?cheers for the replies guys! :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Every man can change. It just takes the right circumstances.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater, because I've cheated before and I don't do it anymore. Here's the thing: ask her if she is serious about you. If she says that she is, ask her to break up with this guy. If she doesn't or gives you excuses, you know that she is not serious about you and I think that you should move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Sounds like she is confused, not sure what she wants. To help her, would be a full time job, being friends is okay.
It is times like this that we should consider we made a mistake by not asking more specific questions and telling others of our beliefs, and not necesarily religous beliefs, but behavioral. When a person does something that hurts you, it is up to you to say something, discuss it so that it won't happen again, or that the other person means nothing by the act, and that is just the type of person they are, and that it doesn't mean they are unfaithful, or trying to find someone else, some maynot know how to be friendly without being what others would consider being flirty.
Life isn't easy, but knowing there is a deeper reason helps us understand others are much more complex then what is seen on the surface.
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