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female
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anonymous
writes:So this isnt a relationship question per se, more of a friend question. Im in my second year of college.. at my second school. I transferred cross country. I dont know anyone here, my decision was fairly random. Well, it was based upon location mostly. Anyhow, I have a history of depression and anxiety, but I figured I could manage. I thought the people here would be more my type. And they are. But I am so shy to the point where it has really ruined everything. I had two good friends in the beginning - one left, and the other I know do not like. However, she made some other friends who I then became friends with. I dont act like myself around her, I act boring and monotonous. Thus, she never really asks me to hangout other than the occasional outing, or to the cafeteria. I like the other 3, I do, but Im not good enough friends with them to hang out with alone. Plus she has a car - that is why it is so easy for her to get to my one friend's house and she uses her car to win them over. Anyhow, my social situation is zilch. Nada. I have given up trying because this girl just refuses to include me. And Im not going to be clingy. I have a bunch of friends at home, but I cant seem to break out of my shell here. I act like a drone, even I bore myself. I begged and begged my parents to come out here. It isnt that its so far away necessarily, its the fact that I cant seem to make it anywhere I go. I plan on going to the newspaper meeting next week, and going on a hike with the outdoors club. Next year, I will most likely be included in getting a house with the 4 of my so-called friends. I know that will make things better, but I dont want to spend two more years here hating it. Also, the only one who isnt graduating a year ahead of me is the girl I hate. aka my senior year I'd have to get new friends.Sorry this is such a rambling question, just needed to give some background. Okay, so my question. My roommate from last year, who became one of my best friends, wants to transfer to a college out here, about an hour from me. That school was on my list of ones I wanted to go to. Im really considering transferring yet again to this school and living with her. She isnt exactly outgoing either but much more so than me. I think its way easier to make friends when you have friends. So if I had her to rely on, I would be able to act like myself, and knowing she is there would help me a lot. The thing is, thats 3 schools in 3 years. Im not exactly the most practical person, and Im not looking to climb the social ladder. Id rather be happy during the next two years than graduate from a "better" school. (To be honest, the other school isnt much of a downgrade at all really, though it is much cheaper). But convincing my parents may not be the easiest thing. All I wanted was to come here, be in the Pacific Northwest - it was my "perfect" school. And it was. It was just me who couldnt make it work. But how could they trust that I know what Im talking about now if just a year ago, I "knew" this was the right school? Also, I feel like a quitter giving up on this school. I feel like maybe I should give it a go. But transferring up there sounds like such a comforting idea, such a good idea. I just need some outside perspective..
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