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anonymous
writes:Ok I met this guy on Friday night in a bar. He was visibly very nervous about approaching me and even nearly walked away out of embarrassment but I was smiling at him and encouraging him to continue talking to me. Then we actually hit it off extremely well. WE had the same humor and lots in common. Then before I left he asked me for my number and he texted me when I get home and when I didn't respond (I had fallen asleep) he texted to make sure I got home ok. Then I replied the next morning and we texted on and off all day Saturday and Sunday. Now it's Monday evening and I haven't heard from him. In his previous texts he always replied fairly detailed texts and was asking questions to keep the conversation going. It was me that replied last on Sunday night and it was just a general comment so nothing he could have taken the wrong way or anything like that. So basically my question is. Should I text again today? Or leave it a day or two? Or just wait until he texts me? We got on unbelievably well and I assume he was feeling the same judging by how often he replied to me and his general inquisitiveness in his messages to keep the conversation going. So I'm a little confused as to why he hasn't texted once today. I am afraid of coming across needy. However, I also like him quite a bit and am afraid of maybe not seeming like I'm that interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): Do not text him. Let him text you. I can almost promise you he will. I made many mistakes round your age, and many guys lost interest in me quickly because I was too eager. I have learnt to let the man be the man. I have learnt to relax and let him persue me in the initial stages. You can always show your interest by RESPONDING to him. Wait, be very patient, and let him contact you. The truth is, if he doesn't, then he isn't that interested, or he doesn't want to, and in that case, it is better you don't contact him anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the replies. I did text last night but he didn't reply (I just sent a casual question :) ). I'll just assume for some reason, as gutted as I am, that he's no longer interested and leave it be. But thank you again for you all your responses. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): So, have you text yet? I'm curious! :) Read your post on Sunday and don't know why but I just wondering if you did or not yet.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 November 2013):
 texts are piggybacked on other data packets on a network... sometimes TEXTS do not go through.
i strongly encourage folks to NOT have relationships via text for just this reason... I had an incident a few weeks back with my son who never replied to a text I sent... why? HE NEVER GOT IT....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): Wait until Wednesday - although I bet by the time you read this he has already texted you! One word of advice though..knock the constant texting on the head. It's very easy for a shy man to stick to texting but he needs to actually call you. You're not kids. Texting is ok but not for days on end after you meet. I had this with my boyfriend when we first met - he wanted to text all the time and I had to stop it beacuse it drove me mad. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): He might not have replied because it's the beginning of a new working week and life may have got in the way. Maybe he had more time that usual over the weekend and he's not normally that much into great texting conversations anyway.I'd leave it til about Wednesday afternoon/early evening and then send him a short text asking how his week's going.If he didn't respond to that then I wouldn't pursue it any further
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2013): Sure go ahead and text him, its not going to hurt anything. But if he doesn't reply let it rest a while. Its not like youre texting him every 5 minutes when he doesn't reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2013): Wait until at least Wednesday to text him. I know it's hard, but sit tight and wait for him. You'll probably hear from him tomorrow.
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