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*ibbey
writes:There is this guy who is cheating on his girlfriend. I know who his girlfriend is and I also know the girl is he is cheating with. I'm not close friends with them, but I know each of them. I want to tell the girlfriend that her man is cheating on her, but then I'm afraid it would come back to me that I told. Even if I told the girlfriend in confidence (or even anonymously), I'm sure the cheaters could probably figure out that I was the one who tattled. I would want to know if my guy was cheating on me, but should I stay out of it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Cheaters are always found out in the end.
Leave them be for now.
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reader, tux +, writes (27 March 2008):
 That's a tough situation. I would personally like to know if someone saw my gf cheating on me, but on the other hand it can always backfire.. Though one sneaky way of uncovering the truth is if you know where the boyfriend takes his affair a lot, you can set up a get together between you and his girlfriend and mysteriously happen to be at the same place at the same time.. then sit back and enjoy the fight. But then that entails that the guy doesn't know that you know where he goes with his affair. But chances are that she probably has some inklings that he is cheating and may just be in denial about it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 See no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil.
Your good intentions may backfire on you.
Just leave them alone .
They shall reap what they sow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): As you say, you would want to know. So no matter how much it would hurt her, she would probably want to know too. I suggest you have a quiet word with her, but make it clear that you don't mean to cause trouble. And if you get the blame for 'tattling' (presumably off the guy), he's hardly one to complain! He's the selfish, two-faced arse that decided to cheat in the first place. He's way more in the wrong than you are - he's out to cause upset, where you're out to solve problems. So if you get found out, then send him over to me!! :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): do other people know of this cheating if so then how can it come back on you ?? if it were me i would tell her she has every right to know you dont have to tell her face to face you can type her a letter she wont know its you as your handwritting wont be there to see and you dont say who you are. i think you should let her know as this could prevent her from STD's how would you feel if someone knew your BF was cheating on you and they didnt tell you? thats the question you need to ask yourself she has the right to protect herself and if you dont tell her your taking away that right..
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