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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): as you didnt cheat it isnt such a big problem as if you did, but a relationship full of trust is alot easier than one without you should tell her, or she may think you have kept more things from her and then she wont trust you.
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reader, samsmith +, writes (27 April 2006):
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Truth is always the best option in the long run and now you can go forward with an honest relationship.
The measure of a man is how he handles a situation and I think you did excellent on this one so I wish you both a long and happy relationship.
Good for you.
BFN
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reader, samsmith +, writes (26 April 2006):
samsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, Thanks for all your responses. I was stupid and didn’t want to tell her that the girl stayed over. We last talked about it at the beginning of our relationship so I didn’t want her to think I did that kind of thing all the time. She might have found out as we are in the same friendship group.I told my girlfriend. She was a bit annoyed that I didn’t tell her at first when she first asked me about the girl but she is ok now and glad that I told her. Thanks.
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reader, indiansage +, writes (26 April 2006):
Since nothing happened that one night, be honest and tell your present girl friend and explain why you did not tell her earlier.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (26 April 2006):
At the end of the day it did all happen before you got together and so it is really irrelevant as you weren't with your girlfriend at the time and so you weren't cheating on her.
How would your new girlfriend find out about this one night stopover?
Is this other girl going to tell her or any friends connected to her?
If it is eating you up inside then tell her that you weren't sure how to tell her that this girl stayed and you didn't feel like it was important as nothing happened.
Now you have been with your g/f for several months and your feelings have grown so much more for her you just want to be honest and upfront with her and even though this all happened before you were together you don't want to base your relationship on anything but trust.
I think if she truly loves you then she will be OK about it.
I cannot guarantee her reaction and only you truly know your g/f so I wish you luck and let me know how things go eh!!
BFN
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): how are you hiding something if it was before the two of you got together?
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reader, princessdizzy +, writes (26 April 2006):
as a girl id rather not know because you didnt cheat, if it happened when you were with her that would be a different story but its part of your past, i dont know your gf so cant tell which she'd prefer but you asked for a strangers opinion... so i wouldnt rock the boat.
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