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writes:Hi! I’m really sorry if you get confused by this but I would really appreciate any help!I started a new school for my A-levels in September and I have a friend who is a couple of years below me who also goes to the school called Amy and we are quite good friends. A little while ago she told me that there is a girl in my year called Emily (who is also one of my friends) she has a crush on. Amy then told Emily her feelings and things became a little awkward between them but they are better now. Amy still has feelings for Emily and apparently Emily said that they could maybe try it when Amy is a couple of years older-she’s 14 now. Amy though has decided she wants to try and go off of Emily as there is a boy she is beginning to like and she doesn’t really want to wait a couple more years to be with Emily. The thing is, I have started getting feelings recently for Emily and I would quite like to be with her but I feel so guilty. I don’t want to upset Amy by going out with a girl she is trying to get over but at the same time I feel I don’t want to keep my secret to myself. Should I tell Amy how I feel about Emily or would she get irritated at me? Should I tell Emily I like her without Amy knowing? I mean I don’t even know if I’m Emily’s type but I feel happy around her and that it could work out. As far as I’m aware of she doesn’t know that I like her. Or do you think I should wait longer to see if Amy gets over Emily and more into the boy-and then what should I do? Please can you help me? thank you for reading! :)
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Thanks for the update honey im glad nothing has gone wrong and i hope it stays like that =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQuite a lot has happened since i wrote this.
I told Amy and she was rather shocked and seemed to be a bit upset about it. after the weekend though on monday she said that it was ok if i wanted to be with Emily and she wouldn;t hate me for it. At lunch emily came up to me saying that she had a text from amy asking "do you like *insert my name*?" and she was really confused. I then admitted that i did like her and she took it really well. Nothing has (or seems to have)changed between either of my friendships between amy or emily and emily is acting perfectly normal, so i don't know whats going to happen now!
if anything else happens then i will say!:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your advice! 3 i will try and talk to her soon! :)i really don't want to upset her and i've recently been so confused over the whole situation! I'll let you know how it all goes! :)also does anyone else have any other bits of advice or been in a similar situation?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (25 February 2010):
hey there, well you aint doing anything wrong by liking this girl we cant controll how we have feelings for, i think the best way to go about this would be to sit down with amy and tell her exactly what you are feeling but tell her you have the respect for her as a friend to ask her opinions and how she would feel about it before talking to emily. that gives her a chances to tell you if she would be upset before you complicate it by telling emily. if she is ok with it then go for it and tell her how you feel about her but if amy is not ok with it it is up to you what to do, but if you go against hert wishes you risk loosing her as a friend. good luck and feel free to tell me how this all goes =]x
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