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*litephoenix16
writes:I have problem. I have a girlfriend and a friend that used to like each other a lot. We all go to the same school. When they liked each other they flirted a lot and talked about everything with each other. They both also had a boyfriend and a girlfriend. That went to other schools. To me this is cheating but it's beside the point.My problem is this: My girlfriend has told my friend that she is no longer interested in him. She doesn't really flirt with him anymore, but he still flirts with her. He talks to her about sexual stuff and physically forces her to walk with him between classes when I'm not around. She tells him that she's disgusted by the way he talks to her but he doesn't care. He still has a girlfriend too by the way. He has hugged her on occasion behind my back as well. He pokes her and touches her a lot behind my back and sometimes in front of me.My girlfriend is very shy and this is the only friend she has at school so she told me she doesn't want to lose him. She told me I have nothing to worry about and that she doesn't see him as a threat or what he does as a big deal. She also said she wants to take care of it herself. That was about 2 months ago and it hasn't changed. Another aspect is that we all have the same breaks in between classes. We all eat lunch together. I no longer consider him as a friend because he is disrespecting us, so this is painful for me to watch everyday. I realize he is just trying to make me pop in front of my girlfriend but I want to stand up for what is right. What should I tell him?
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reader, rhian.  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Tell him how you feel about him being so flirtatious with your girlfriend, tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask him if he'll try and back off a bit. He may not realise that he's acting inappropriately and will try to change his behavious. Maybe also talk to your girlfriend again and say that the whole situation is upsetting you and if something isnt resolved you are going to completely lose your friendship, it may make her take action.
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