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writes:I'm dating a freiends ex wife. He's a good friend but don't see him much, 1 time in the last two years. He remarried and his ex wife was also remarried and divorced for 5 year. Is it important that I still tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2018): I can see why you'd ask the question. You should tell him. Yes. But I think you'd rather not have to go through such an unpleasant task. You're worried this friend will be pissed off or might feel you were dishonouring some bro code. There's still that possibility. It doesn't matter if they've both moved on. Just a weird situation that his friend is having sex with a woman he had sex with for years as his wife. Of all women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2018): I told him. He was totally cool and said if we we're happy then he's happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2018): If you're serious about each other yes before he finds out and is pissed that you didn't tell him first...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 December 2018):
 Um, yes?
How do you think he won't hear about this from other and wonder why you haven't told him?
While I don't really think you need his blessing or permission, I think telling him is just what a friend would do.
Now YOU can CHOOSE to also tell him that you don't want to discuss her (and you shouldn't) and then continue being friends or acquaintances.
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