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writes:Ive found out something about my best friends boyfriend. They have been going out for about 2months. Not that long but they're both 17 and my friend says shes in love with him. I havent met him, the way shes describes him he sounds absolutly perfect. I have been very happy for her, as she deserves someone special. Shes quite meek, and shy and someone eager to please. And shes not very experienced with the whole relationship thing so i feel very protective. Her boyfriend is very much into basketball and is always away to other countries to play. My friend however rang me and told me that he heard, from his friend that her boyfriend is not as serious in the relationship as she is, and that he really likes another girl and is quite a player. The thing is i dont want to stir anything up through hearing something form the grapevine but i dont want her to get hurt. She did mention that her boyfriend still talks to his ex, and goes to her house, and he told my bestfriend that his ex kissed him, and then he told her he had a girlfriend and then she asked if he had a condom. I thought this was a bit dodgy, if he had made it clear he had a girlfriend how could that progress to her asking if he had a condom? Also my bestfriend is a virgin, and she says she not ready for sex, the way she describes her boyfriend he sounds like the most patient guy in the world! they only kiss, no touching or ANYTHING ELSE and i think this is great but from my past experience of boys i just feel slightly weary. Should i tell her what i've heard? Or should i wait and see what happens? The thing is he is going to go to America for four years with a scholarship! She says she loves him and he loves her and they're going to have a long distance relationship. Should i just see if it burns out? i just really dont want her to get hurt..... P.s. we have always said we would tell eachother if we found out something but i dont know if i would be making a big deal out of nothing!Pleeaaaseee help!
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 August 2007):
Can these rumors be confirmed? Is your best friend trustworthy on these matters? And what did he do after being asked if he had a condom?
They are not in love after only two months, they may think they are, but they aren't. Those are hormones. If you trust these stories you here, and can be pretty sure that he's a scumbag it is better she finds out now. That's what friends do. How will you feel if things go sour and you knew the whole time? How will she feel if she finds this out?
How would you feel if you were in her situation and she were in yours?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): Listen. They've been going out for two months and a lot of the time he isn't there. They aren't in love. Every 17 year old on this earth experiences some hormones and thinks that it is love within a few days. It isn't. if he's leaving for America for four years, it will probably end anyway.However, you haven't met the guy. And never believe rumors from only one source. How is the person that told you this so sure? If you happen to find something out from another source that is trustworthy or someone who knows firsthand and you are pretty sure he isn't what she thinks he is, then hell yeah, tell her. If you're a true friend, tell her. She may not want to believe you, but that isn't your problem.
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