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Should I tell my former teacher I'm in love with him?

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Question - (14 November 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 November 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *ophieKG writes:

Hello,

I'm 21 years old and I graduated from high school three years ago. During my senior year, I fell in love with my math teacher. We always got along fine, but he never showed any preference towards me. After I graduated, we ran into each other a couple of times and have kept in touch through facebook and email. We've become friends. Lately the frequency of the emails has increased, and he often initiates them. I think about him all the time. It affects my love life as well- I suspect a few of my last relationships have failed because of my love for this man. It's like I can't settle for anything less than him. We have so much in common and he shares a lot of personal life with me. I have been in love with him for four years now, and I can't get him out of my mind.

Should I tell him? Even if I am setting myself up for rejection, maybe it will help me get over him. Like getting closure or something. But I'm afraid it might freak him out... and just when he was starting to open up to me so much. I've been fighting the urge to just confess my love for him for so long, and since it's been a while since I graduated... maybe it wouldn't be so wrong? It's been a very painful experience for me.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011):

It may seem awkward that he was your former Maths teacher & that you have always desired him. But he's not anymore. You've grown up into a young woman & he's a single man. By showing a keen interest in you he acknowledges that you are a woman now. I suspect he may also be struggling with the fact that you were his former pupil- I mean- student & maybe that's making him hasitant to come clean about his feelings for you. Nevertheless, you're both matured adults who can be civil, instead of playing guessing games like teenagers. Approach this maturely. Grab a coffee with him & ask him if hes' interested in you. That way you can balance the algebraic equation of your heart by finding the unknown or 'x' value of his heart. All the best & have fun doing the maths.

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A female reader, SophieKG United States +, writes (14 November 2011):

SophieKG is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Yes, I forgot to add he is single.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (14 November 2011):

Honeypie agony aunt

If he is single, then I wsee no problem in telling him that you had a major crush on him.

If he is not, then you need to stop wasting your time on this guy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011):

Is Math teacher Single and available? I am hoping he is as he is acting like a Single Male.

IF he is, then I would tell him as emotional connection is present and when a man is so open and shares such details of his life, his thoughts, its more than a platonic friendship.

If Math Teachers is NOT single, I'd delete him out of Facebook and stop all contact.

He should ONLY be thusly initmate with the person he loves and not young women on the internet. Thats cheating and who can trust a cheater??

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