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writes: Hi I am in tormoral, I have just found out that my sister in law who I am very close to is having an affair with a man she works with. She does not suspect that I know a thing.My brother would be devastated, he lives for his wife and their children.Should I tell my brother ? Should I confront my sister in law ! Or may be will it fizzle out ? I don't want to be the one to hurt my brother with this news.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2005): I am in the same situation and judt for kicks, I typed in "search"...what to do in the exact situation! Your post came up! Now... Hum... so I follow the advice that was given to you is another question all together!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (14 March 2005):
 I know your heart must be aching for your brother, but this isn't a revelation that should be coming from you, even as much as you care.If you insinuate yourself into this circumstance, your brother will feel automatically inclined to defend his wife, the wife will automatically defend her actions and you'll come up looking like a liar, and get them both off side.Becoming involved in this is going to be awful and I'd discourage you from it, if you possibly can; however, if you feel you must meddle, please address your comments to your sister-in-law, and do it in private.Remember, no matter what you heard, or what you saw, you can't be sure of what's happening. Not unless you actually observed a sexual act between your sister-in-law and the other man. Anything less is speculation!Either stay out of it, or go to your S-I-L and tell her what you heard or saw. Ask her what's going on, if you feel you must. If she answers and you're confident that your suspicions about her are 100% infallible, ask her to tell your brother. Just be prepared to be the meat in a very ugly sandwich.Good luck.
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