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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi everyone so I have been in a relationship for about eight months now. He is my first proper boyfriend and any other boys I have kissed etc he knows about. The thing is I used to be in an LDR with a guy i met online - i never met the guy but we spoke for about a year and then well kinda dated online for a year. Nothing crazy or anything mainly just talking. He did live half way across the world. Now my current boyfriend doesn't know about it, he knows there was someone and that we used to talk but i feel uncomfortable telling him the full story incase he thinks i am silly or something. He asked once and i said i would rather not talk about it as it was in the past however everyone who i have kissed he knows about. He hasn't asked again and respects my choice however i do feel like i am hiding something. Its not a big deal but i still don't like hiding it. He is a lovely person so i am sure he wouldn't mind but due to past reasons where people have judged me on this ( I was friends with some horrible girls who laughed at me about the LDR ) I am scared to tell him. Shall i just leave it ? Thank you to everyone who responds
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): If he is an understanding person he won't judge you so don't be afraid to tell him about it. It's not like you were in a serious relationship with the guy or that you were married. From what you are saying he seems like a nice guy and you were just speaking to this other guy for a year. If you have any unresolved feelings then you need to acknowledge that. Don't worry about those girls. They don't sound like friends because they would have been more supportive and they were probably a little jealous. If you like this new guy that is currently in your life then just tell him small details and reassure him that it's part of your past. You haven't done anything wrong. I have also been talking to guys that live far away and I haven't met any of them. But when you are honest guys will appreciate it. That's how you build trust in a relationship. Good luck.
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