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writes:Hey, One day I was at my boyfriends and he introduced me to his best friend. At first I wasn't attracted to him but as time went on I started to like him more and more.A few weeks later we were all under a blanket watching a film and he held my hand. As soon as my boyfriend left the room we kissed. One thing led to another and he ended up fingering me.I felt really really bad because I really love my boyfriend more than words can describe and I did that to him.I feel really bad for what I did but I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend... I don't want to lose him but I don't want to lie to him. Should I keep it quiet or should I tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): I understand you feel bad but at least you didnt have sex. Your young and this is what young people do. When i was sixteen i let my best friends boyfriend finger me in the movie theater while she sat right by him and didnt even realize what was going on. Of course i felt bad but as i got older i just rationalized that as teenagers we only think about what feels good and not anyone elses feelings, thats why teenage relationships dont last. And in saying this I also have to mention she slept with my boyfriend a year later, not even knowing about me and hers. TEENAGERS?????????????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I recently had a run in of this type but my best friend, more like my brother went out of town and his girlfriend of six months and i hung out. things got hot and heavy and one thing led to another and she ended up whacking me of and vise versa--if you can say that? We both felt horrible that we hurt someone we love. We told him together the day he got back. He took it quite well and realized that we both felt horrible and that these thing happen especially for 17 and 18 year olds.
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reader, ric124uk +, writes (16 February 2009):
I think you've made a massive mistake, if your not gonna do it again for sure then don't tell him but you have to be confident his "mate" who must be a complete dick to do it aswell!! will keep quiet. When i was young i found out one of my mates was fooling around with my girlfriend of 6 months, and that has affected me as i really liked her, obviosly she was a bit of a slag as she kept doing it so i had to finish things but it still affects my relationships now as i hate my girlfriend being such good mates with lads i hardly know. So be careful what you do and think about your boyfriends feelings as he'll feel such a cock if all this gets out
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reader, ric124uk +, writes (16 February 2009):
I think you've made a massive mistake, if your not gonna do it again for sure then don't tell him but you have to be confident his "mate" who must be a complete dick to do it aswell!! will keep quiet. When i was young i found out one of my mates was fooling around with my girlfriend of 6 months, and that has affected me as i really liked her, obviosly she was a bit of a slag as she kept doing it so i had to finish things but it still affects my relationships now as i hate my girlfriend being such good mates with lads i hardly know. So be careful what you do and think about your boyfriends feelings as he'll feel such a cock if all this gets out
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reader, BabygurlVa2090  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 I don't think you're a bad person..temptation defeated you. But i have to admit it was wrong what you did and yes you should tell your boyfriend, because if he fingered a girl without you knowing it wouldn't you want to know?? I think you would, youre just going to have to suffer the consequences and buck up and tell the truth.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (16 February 2009):
 you honestly should feel bad..you did a horrible thing,if you loved your bf you would never do that to him..making out with his best friend and letting him finger you..youre sooo young you should have some dignity and not come out as slutty...you should never do that to your own bf again..
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (16 February 2009):
If you really love your boyfriend and you're done fooling around with his friend, then don't tell him but don't let anything happen like that, ever again. You can tell him, I Mean, it'd be the right thing to do but he'll most likely be real mad and upset also, and it might take a while for him to trust you again. But like I said, if you're planning on staying with your boyfriend because you love him and aren't going to cheat on him anymore then don't tell him but don't do it again.
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reader, anoms +, writes (16 February 2009):
 i dont think you should bring your love for your boyfriend into this, i feel you made your desision the moment you held hands with him! but letting it go much further then that was quite irresponsible of your bf's feelings. and no his best friend should never have dont such things, but you had the oppertunity to stand up and say no, now its a little late for that, i personally think you should live with it rather then hert your bf as it has nothing to do with him, but thats just me. gudluk.
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