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writes:I have a couple things to ask... ok well, I LOVE my boyfriend. We've been "going out" (not counting all of our break-ups) 2 years. everynight we talk on the phone and sometimes get into fights about me liking other people. I've lied to him about not liking his brother and someone else before, so when i say i don't like the 2 guys he doesn't believe me. i've been crossing my fingers so when i say i don't like them He told me that he's starting to trust me now. what should i do, should i tell him that i kinda like the 2 guys or not.The next thing i have to ask is that my bf is so sweet to me and he hugs me and he kisses me but i get to nervous when i want to kiss him, is that bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mistiwood  +, writes (18 February 2007):
oh dear, in what rule book is it not allowed to like someone else?! No one can control someone else, a relationship should be built on trust and mutual respect, if you like someone else does not mean you are going to go off with them, he is obviously not very secure in his own self if you cannot say you like someone. Find someone who can allow you to express your own feelings and not feel guilty. I can tell my partner that I fancy anyone and vice versa, the trust is there so it is not an issue, however you should question whether your relationship is an issue and whether you should try and find someone who will compliment you and let you be you, not what he would like you to be. Good luck!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 February 2007):
 Hey there, sweetness,
Do you actually want to DO anything with these other people? If you actually are actively pursuing them, then yes - that should be talked about with your boyfriend. However, if you just think these two guys are sort of cute and you sort of crush on them, but you'd never actually date them (because, in theory, you love your boyfriend too much), I don't think he needs to know!
I love my boyfriend very much. Doesn't mean I haven't had a few crushes since I've been with him! I'd never actually act on these feelings, but there are some guys that I've sort of liked. None of them are NEARLY as cool or handsome as my boyfriend, though. Not even close.
And about the kissing, there's nothing wrong with being nervous! But, just know that he likes kissing you, right? So if you go in for the kiss, you know he's going to like it!!
Good luck and have fun with your boyfriend.
xxIndia
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reader, onewish89hmb +, writes (18 February 2007):
 Maybe you feel nervous because you feel you are hiding something from him. If you love him and if you're close to him then tell him you sorta like people or are attracted to them but he is the one you're with. He might be mad so be prepared. If he breaks up with you over it, it wasn't worth it anyways. Good luck!
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