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male
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anonymous
writes:Ok a real good friend of mine has recently split up with her bf and since then we've been getting really close but because we have been friends for a long time im scared of telling her how i feel and wondered should i tell her that i love her?
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reader, ohhsnapp  +, writes (29 April 2009):
Yess, you should tell her!
You never know, she could feel the same way about you!
Oh & can you please give me advice on my question too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): I guess you will notice it when you see a change in her attitude. Give it a month or two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow do i know when she is ready though? i dont really like to talk about whether shes over him or not incase i upset her
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reader, Rachel :-) +, writes (27 April 2009):
tell her.
you will regret it if you don't in the long run
don't expect anything in return though
also expect her to be shocked. give her time to think.
you never know. she might feel the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): YES!! Tell her!!
If you don't tell her you will probably regret it for like, ever!
Ok, I was really good friends with this guy and I was also crazy about him but I never got up the courage to do anything about it, and eventually he got into another relationship and she didn't like me being his friend because she though we were too close.. And that was it! I've kicked myself loads of times for that.
Also, I had a really great male friend that was always there for me, I had sometimes wondered if maybe he liked me as more than a friend but he never did anything about it so I just thought he couldn't see me that way. Much later I got into a serious relationship with someone else and then he comes and tells me that he's been in love with me..
Well, what am I supposed to do now? I mean I had already adapted to not having a chance with him and I had moved on..
So basically I'm saying just be honest with her, even if she doesn't feel the same way it will still be worth it to get it off your chest.
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reader, helplessgirl08  +, writes (27 April 2009):
trust me you shoul tell her even if she doesnt feel the same it will drive you made if you dont tell her and you never no she might feel the exact same way
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Well, as she has not long ago split up with her boyfriend, you should probably wait a little while until she is over him. You don't want to end up as the rebound guy - this probably won't happen as you're friends, but it is a possibility. When the time is right and when you two are alone, tell her you have feelings for her, and would like to be more than friends. She may not feel the same or she might not be ready for another relationship, but at least you would have told her how you felt. If she does respond this way, you'll have to be wary of how this might affect your friendship after and if you can cope with being 'just friends'.
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