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anonymous
writes:So ive only been intimate with one man for the last 3 months, last month my period came oct. 15 until oc 20. We had sex oct. 21. And after that we text one time until we hung out again but i was drunk n messed things up between us, he said he would never contact me again which was nov 2. Havent heard from him since. My period is late i just dont know if i should tell him or not. I mean i am going to have an abortion so whatever he says doesnt matter. I don't know whether to tell him or just abort it and move on with my life. I dont want to be miserable. I had started my birth control patch that same day oct. 21. He probably would say this child is not his since we had sex once. Thats what jerks would say. Anyway just need help. Havent spoke to anyone about this situation.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (14 November 2012):
If you are going to use a patch or pill as your primary form of birth control, you must understand how to use it properly to avoid becoming pregnant. You must also understand the scenarios where it cannot prevent pregnancy.
The first day of your menstrual cycle is the first day of your period.
Because you are using the patch and you did not apply the patch on the first day of your menstrual cycle but instead waited until the following Sunday (October 21st), you should have used a 2nd form of birth control like a condom or spermicide to prevent pregnancy...this holds true for the whole first week after you apply the patch if you don't apply the patch on the first day of your menstrual cycle.
If you have already decided to have an abortion regardless of whether you see the guy again or not, it is probably best if you don't try to contact him. If you have already made this decision, nothing good can come from telling him. Telling him won't make him change his mind about how he feels about you and can only serve as something that could hurt or anger him.
Finally, hormone birth control does NOT work for all women. My sister in law was taking the pill the first time she became pregnant. She was using the ring the second time she became pregnant. She used both products properly but neither worked for her. You may honestly need to consider a second form of birth control (like condoms, a diaphragm and/or spermicide) to prevent yourself from another unwanted pregnancy.
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 November 2012):
 If it comes back to you being pregnant then I would guess it's up to you to make the choice if you want to tell him or not.
I would consider the reason WHY you want to tell him though, if you have already decided that you would abort?
And I would never just rely on birth-control pills, specially if it's a one night's stand, you don't know what kind of STD's they can have, know what I mean? always use a condom too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i already have a child and my periods are 28 days. It only happened once. I know about my health very well for those talking trash. But my question was if it came back positive. should i tell him even if im having an abortion. And i am on birthcontrol i just dont know why it didnt work.
Thanks anyways for those comments i appreciate it.
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female
reader, Candid Cally +, writes (13 November 2012):
Some periods are later than others...especially if you start or stop birth control.
My periods are 28 days, but last month I had a 31 day cycle.
Have you had a positive pregnancy test?
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 November 2012):
I agree with all 3 aunties.
IF your period doesn't show up in a week- 10 days BUY a pregnancy test and test.
Secondly STOP having unprotected sex.
Thirdly having an abortion is your choice, but it should NEVER EVER replace birth-control. When it comes down to it, it's not "just" a matter of "getting rid of IT".
Please please stop having sex if you can't handle the consequences. BE SMART - go get on birth control, buy some condoms and USE both when you have sex.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 November 2012):
 Have you taken a pregnancy test?
You had a period October 15
if you have a typical 28 day cycle you probably did not even ovulate until around the 29th of October.
If you had sex October 21 then it's HIGHLY UNLIKELY you are pregnant.
Your period would have been due YESTERDAY the 12. IF you have a 28 day cycle.
Get a good home pregancy test and take it.
If it's negative wait a few days and take it again.
I'm betting you are not pregnant.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): Okay you need to focus on getting an education - to write properly and understand human health.The first day of you last period was October 15th. It is now November 12th. How are you late. You're only on day 27. Also,there is a very minute risk of getting pregnant a day after your period ends.Your not late or pregnant.
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