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writes:Ok. So here it is. I am ABSOLUTELY in love with this guy who is 12 years older then me. He's 26 and I'm 14. He is unmarried and as far as I know he doesn't have a girlfriend. If he did I would definitely try to forget about him because I want him to be happy and wouldn't want to ruin a good or even perfect relationship. To me, he is absolutely perfect. We have a lot in common and get along pretty well. From where I know him, he treated my friends and I differently then the other people who were also there. You could call us favorites. My friend also is in love with him and we are both very upset that he is moving far, far away. My heart feels like it is being ripped out, still beating, shredded into pieces and then thrown away like it was nothing. He doesn't know what he's doing though, I'm sure if he did, he wouldn't be doing it. He gave me and my friends his e-mail so that we could keep in contact with him when he moved. My question is, well I was wondering if I should tell him my true feelings our just be happy to be friends and still be able to talk to him and if a relationship between us is at all possible, even if it is the smallest chance in the universe. Thanks for the answers ahead of time! Reply to this Question
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reader, hflamo +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Me and this guy liked each other and we're both 5 years apart,i had told him how i felt about him and now i wish i hadn't. Yes he said he had the same feelings but also that we just couldn't date and it wouldn't be right
so i'd say wait a couple years and stay his friend and tell him how u feel then when ur older and the difference seems less strange to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): My boyfriend is 12 years older than me. I've just turned 19. And we've known each other since I was 11 or 12.
No, I'm not condoning a relationship at this point - for one, your too young. And it's illegal. Wait a few years, until your legal in the eyes of the law - thats what we did. Now been together as a couple 4 months. And glad we waited. When I was 14, I wouldn't of have the maturity to deal with the age difference, and people think I don't now. But that will be your decision to make.. THEN.
Keep in contact, be friends, but don't tell him your feelings. After all - it could ruin anything happening in the future.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): are u out of your mind
ur 14 and his like 26 are u crazyy.i know age shouldnt matter
i mean i'm 15 and this guy i really like is 18 but thats not that far age diffrence
he just wants to get u in ur pants..and also i think that u should at least go out there and find someone thats a little older but not too much
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reader, scorpion queen +, writes (1 July 2008):
are you out of your mind? first of all I would like to know where in the heck you got this tendency from at your age. Don't you dare tell him your feelings you are way to young to be with him and if he is too stupid to know that he can go to jail and be a registered sex offender for the rest of his life. I cant believe you would even think about it and what made you grow to have feelings because personally I don't think he should even be hangin out with you and your friends. I don't want to sound mean but too many guys get put into a tempted situation with a girl a few years younger and could cost them alot for the rest of their lives. Don't put him or yourself in that position please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): I think you should just be happy for him. It's sweet that you like him so much, but he's way outta your league. A relationship like that usually doesn't work out. I'd just let him be happy and enjoy his friendship while it lasts.
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reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 If he's perfect for you, then think how much more perfect he'll be in a few years.
And if you don't believe that "more perfect" makes any sense, it's right there in the Constitution, so tell it to the Supreme Court.
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