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writes:Okay, so I posted before about wether or not to be with my current boyfriend. And I fell in love and we are/were doing great. My boyfriends best fried is also one of my good friends, we all met a long time ago (like 8 yrs). My boyfriend is suppost to be coming home on the 15th for a visit from Camp Lejeune, NC and had told me he wanted to get married, but I told him we'd have to wait. BEFORE we got to together, I slept with his best friend, and we knew told my boyfriend. Two nights ago(it's been like 6 months since) my boyfriends best friend sends me an email telling me that he's falling in love with me and I need to leave my boyfriend because he knows I care about him. But I don't I want to marry and be with man I'm with. Now I can't get ahold of my boyfriend and I'm not sure if he found out or is just upset about me not marring him right now. So my question is do I tell my boyfriend about us sleeping together? DO I tell him about his friend trying to break us up or do I just shut my mouth? I know if he finds out about us sleeping together, it will kill him and he'll leave. I don't want to hurt him, I know how much he loves me. Any and all advice is welcomed, thank you in advance....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): perhaps it time for some honesty in your young life. "....it will kill him and he'll leave. I don't want to hurt him..." too much of drama! s, he will behurt but he will survive. in the end he will even thank you for not making him make the biggest mistake of his life. strange that you had no qualms sleepimg with this other guy but you expect your bf to toe the line. in the end you will just mess this man up so better end it while you can. he doesn't deserve any more lies and halftruths. seems to me like this other guy is oging to squeak on you, bif time, so who beter to tell the truht to your bf. the man who you had sex with or who. at least if you tell him before this other man you will still have some sort of dignity intact. if this man gets to your bf first then big, big shit. is this what you want.too many people here say they do not want to speak the truth because the truth will just likke their cheated partners. bullshit- we do not confess to the truth because we are selfish and self serving. we do not confess - we protect ourselves and we do not want to appear to be bad. we just excuse away our lies and half truths. is this what you will also do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): I would not tell your bf. If you tell him, it is likely he will have lost both you and his friend. You made a mistake. If your bf confronts you, own up to it and beg for forgiveness. Tell the friend that you made a mistake and you don't want to be with him and ask him to respect the relationships and not destroy them.
You are not a bad person, but you made a mistake.
Good luck.
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