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Should I tell her that I have a crush on her or just enjoy the time I have with her as a friend? Help!!

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Question - (9 June 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 10 June 2008)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm in need of a quick spot of advice on how to proceed here.

The girl in question and I have known each other for a few years, through a mutual friend. Until recently we had just remained casual acquaintances, talking really only if we were at the same place at the same time. A few months ago, knowing that I work in a technical field, she grabbed my number (and IM name) off Facebook to ask me a few questions. We then proceeded to talk pretty regularly over IM, and seemed to share a lot of common interests.

Over the past few months we've gone to a movie, dinner and hung out quite a bit. We hit the bars a few nights ago, just the two of us, and had a great time. I've started to find myself developing a little bit of a crush, but have yet to make any advances.

All is well, right? Well, kind of. She just graduated from college (I've been out for two years), and has aspirations of working in a position where she'll be out of the country quite a bit. She's told me she plans on being around this area probably through the fall, but is unsure after that.

My question is, should I tell her I'm "crushing" on her, knowing that she might not be looking for anything with her future so up in the air? Or do I just enjoy my time with her as friends?

I've been burned by waiting too long to tell girls before, so I'm trying to change my ways here.

Thanks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008):

What do you have to lose if you tell her how you feel? Do you think it will spoil your friendship?

What will you lose if you don't tell her how you feel? Could you lose the woman of your dreams?

Your choice, your relationship, your life. There are no guarantees. You makes the choice and you accept the consequences. Go on be brave, live your life the way you've always dreamed, go on, do it, do it today.

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