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writes:If you lied to your significant other about what you did sexually during a brakeup period (not just a temporary split) , should the other person know everything? I wasnt fuly truthful to my g/f , she knows I messed around , but not that i had sex. SHould this ever be resolved even if the lie has been going on for a while with no bringing it back up and her saying not to talk about it anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): i think you know if she found out she will be hurt. but what would you rather have - her finding out or you telling her. secrets my dearest have a way of coming out, at the most inopportune time. you need to tell her the entire truth. if she still wants you in her life, great. if not, there are others. right?
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reader, isdnvn +, writes (28 May 2009):
isdnvn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone . . . any advice anyone can give will still be greatly appreciated. I will watch this page.
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reader, isdnvn +, writes (28 May 2009):
isdnvn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone . . . any advice anyone can give will still be greatly appreciated. I will watch this page.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): No, if you are broken up, what you do during that time is not her business. You were single. Details about your sexual exploits will just be painful for her to hear. Instead of lying to her, remind her that a break up is a break up and that you would rather focus on your relationship now and not in the past when you were single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): Some people would rather be blissfuly inaware, because there is definitely such a thing. Whereas others would be feel degraded and dumb with not knowing everything that's ging on around them, especially in their own relationships.
Personally, i would rather know EVERYTHING. everythign that will hurt or help. There are others who would rather just forget it.. not know.. move on..
You know her better than we do. What do you think she would want you to do? Since you didn't cheat on her, there is no crime in what you did. The lie is what took it to a level of wrong. It's up to you man, and her. Think about her.
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