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writes:hello, i am here to ask for some advice and please, i do not want judgemental replys. please.if you are going to say something nasty, please restrain yourself and read another question and do not reply.Thankyou.Okay well long story short, its the typical, im not sure about who i wanna be with.Oh and sorry because this is going to be quite long and I have alot of history with both of them.Guy 1: met at start at secondary school n went out for 4years on/off. he left me feeling quite depressed. i cheated on him once (i was young and immature, 11yrs old). We broke up but got together but my so called best mate tried it on with him and although he didnt respond, we broke up because he didnt want the arguments.Guy 2: we met round the same time as i met guy 1 although we were best friends throughout all this time and we never dated. He was the ultimate player and when we did date, he cheated on me. I have neva forgotten it but i have forgiven him because i am with him now because he told me he changed and he has. i have been with him for 4 months now.anyway thats a bit of background info. 4years worth of friendship/relationship there stashed into a little paragraph lolanyway, i got with guy 2 4 months ago, and in the second week, guy 1 told me he wanted to be with me. and he still loved me. i said no, i couldnt because i did dump guy 2 ONCE before, for guy 1 and i didnt want to make the same mistake. i have always had a thing for guy 1, he was also my first love and i still have little feelings for him that will never go away.anyway, 2 months after this, guy1 got a new girlfriend. she was my ex best mate. the one that tried it on with him all those years ago and caused us to break up? the one i mentioned up there ^of course i wasnt happy because it was her but i didnt say or do anything because it wasnt anything to do with me.but one of my boy mates is in her class and she started talking to him about guy 1. and she said: i dont think me and guy 1 are working out, im going to break up with him.and she never did but she never spoke to him anyway. she would be more interested in his best mate and obviously i hated seeing guy 1 so upset so i told him what she sed to my boy mate and he listened and said, okay i'll try sort it. this was halfway through the first month of their relationship and cos i was really close with both of them at one point, i knew from the beginning it wasnt going to work but i left it.today we got our mock results (we're in year 11 so we're 15/16) back and i was with guy 1. (guy 2 doesnt go to the same school)and i noticed he looked a bit down. so i said to him: hey how are you? how are ur results?and he said: sh*t. and he told me his results and they were goodi said: cheer up! theyre good!n he sed: thats not the only thing thoughand i got a bit worried and looked at him and said: is it *Tash?and he said: yeahi said: what she doin? well..NOT doing in ur case (cos she doesnt talk to him etc)he said: yeah exactly! she doesnt do anything!and she blames it on me and says im ignoring her! im sick of her. im ending it.and he does try hold her hand, hug her , talk to her etc but shes too interested in his friend and doesnt do any of these things.but because i have always liked him, and you know when i mentioned up there ^ how i told him what *Tash said to my boy mate?I told him on the phone, and i was going to tell him i still liked him. But i never didDo you think i should tell him?Not now obviously, but a few weeks down the line?because i love him...but i love my boyfriend now.i dont expect to break up wit guy 2 and get with guy1. i just wondering if i should tell guy 1 how i feel?Thankyou x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): I don't think you should cause if you tell guy 1 how you feel it will somehow get back to guy 2 and it will start to many problems especially trust issuses. And you and guy 2 are already working on makeing things good after a fall out in the pass. So i wouldn't just focuse on guy 2 if thats who you are going to stay with regardless of how you feel for guy 1. Hope this helps even a little.
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