A
female
age
36-40,
*hai Lien
writes:hi, my name is Lien, from Vietnam. I have had a online boyfriend and we've been together for 8months, he's china, im in vietnam. As his plan, he will go back usa to see family and then him and his mom are going to come here for me at the end of this july. However, last week, because he lost his phone and had no internet on those days, we could not contact each other for around 3 days, i was so worried if he was fine, so i looked for some relatives of his, and i found his close friend on myspace who is considered as a sis to him and him as a bro to her, talked to her to see whether she knew anything 'bout how he had been or somethin like that, she got no idea too. In addition, she told me something about him like he is always changing gfs. After that day, i reached him and talked to him, and told him about what i talked with his sis and everything.I was afraid of him being mad at me for contacting her without asking him first but he was not. However, he was so pissed off for what she said to me about him. I guessed they have been fighting with each other, he doesnot want to mention about it to me. I asked if he was mad at me or not, he said he's very angry with sister and he really loves me and everything, after that he has not talked to me again, even when he was online, i tried to talk on msn or sent emails but he did not answer.What ive been confused here is that what is going on? if he's mad at me? or its all bout him and his sis and he's been so upset, and not wanna talk to anyone these times. I have no idea cuz he has not talked to me after that day. I dont really care what she told me about him cuz i love him for what he's now and him of today,not the past. Futhermore, he's kinda a person who isnot very opened to share family matters with people, although im his gf but we's just on the way getting to knwo each other. When his grandpa passed away, he kept it for himself till i asked too much he told me, and it took like 1 week for him to feel better and talked to me again.I just wanna know what is actually happening but find no way to have the answer from him. I am thinking about contacting his mom although we never seen each other in person ,even talked to her but many times he mentioned to me about her that she knows our relationship and supports us alot, and that she once wanted to talk to me but he wants us to meet in person first, then i will just talk to her. Morever, another time i missed the chance to have a conversation with her for some reasons.What do u think if i try to contact her now? i think i need some advices from her, maybe she knows something. I really read some advices in some other websites, everyone gave out their own opinion, like his mom will tell him, he will be mad at me for talking behind him. Or just talk to her to get some advices, she knows her son well, but don't ever try to get her to talk to her son for you, or take ur side. I agree i guess so. But the prb here is that i never talked to her before and it may sound a lil bit awkward to contact her all of a sudden i think?? Please, help me...im really confused here,i love him too much and miss him so bad, now even so worried how he's been doing there.Should i contact his mom and talk to her? That's my question. Thank u for all the answers, ur consideration and enthusiasm :-)Have a nice day,dear.
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