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writes:I met this guy back in april online, I thought he was perfect he was 21 lived in washington, Im 18 and live in dublin ..ages away! anyway we talked for around 6 months loads, and he kept asking me to come over to him and I was really going to, anyway I haven't signed online for over a month, I don't know why I kind of went off him, now I feel so guilty and am wondering should I talk to him again? I feel bad! thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): So have you lost interest? It is okay if this is what has happened, it does happen sometimes. Well, I guess you could just ignore him. But if you are feeling guilty, then maybe you could send him a message saying that you haven't been online for a while, and so haven't been available to talk. Then say that although you have enjoyed talking to him, you don't want things to go any further, and just wanted to say goodbye. Something like that? I know it will be difficult, but there is no easy way of telling someone if you have lost interest. You just have to tell them.
But I am wondering, why did you not go online for a month? It seems like things were going okay between you, so what happened? I am wondering if you maybe felt pressured to go and visit him, and deep down you didn't want to or feel ready to? And so you stayed away to avoid discussing it further? If that is what happened, but you are still interested in him, then I think you should just tell him that you are not ready to meet him, and you sort of panicked and took off for a while. But you would like to continue getting to know each other. Don't let anyone make you feel pressured into anything you are not 100 percent comfortable with.
But if you have just simply lost interest, then a quick message to tell him should be fine. Awkward maybe! But it might help ease your feelings of guilt about disappearing. It's your choice really. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): do you have some valid reasons why you stopped wanting to make contact. Analyse why.
When you have worked out why you stopped contacting him you will be in a position to give him an honest answer.
Our intuition is very strong. Unconsciously we process millions of pieces of data, then we make a snap decision in our head that incorporates elements of all the relevant data we analysed. And yet we still call it intuition.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 well i think you totally should!if u have a good time with him then why not!
but my advise is take it slow,gt to know each other and as far as meeting the other person goes,online meetings are very dangerous..so be careful and watch your step irrespective of how sweet and nice the guy is!
all the best
xx
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