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writes:Hello Ok basically every morning before school I wait for my bf (C) and his older bro (S) who is in 6th form to be dropped off and his bro's gf (K) who is in the year above but is the same age as me waits for them as well.The thing is we wait in different places, I wait by the gate just behind (k), and she stands on a grassy ptach just in front of me. I get dropped off and have to walk past her and we always smile but I would like to try and stand with her so we can wait for our bf's together (S) and (C) talk alot and the four of us talk at lunchtimes and after school waiting to be picked up but (K) has only ever said a couple of things to me such as asking my bf to invite me round his house and was like "when you come round you can sit with me" and we laugh when our bf's get into mini fights.Basically my question is in the mornings shall I take the risk of standing with her with possible many awkward silences and small talk while we wait for our bf's or should I keep standing on my own... the only thing I am affraid of is making myself look weird :s plz any opinions thanks? xx Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 you walk past her? how about you walk up to her and say "good morning, what's up?" and stop and wait for her answer.
You have her on a pedestal and there is no need...
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (12 January 2013):
 I don't think you'll appear weird by talking to her. It's just being friendly, and I'm sure she'll be friendly back. Sounds like you're both a bit shy, that's all.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 January 2013):
You need to understand that awkward silences are only awkward if you let them be...
What I mean by that is that some silence is natural and if you're okay with that then it won't be awkward.
Just approach her and ask if she minds if you wait with her. When you are getting to know someone ask them questions about themselves, nothing too heavy, but maybe things like:
Did you do anything fun this weekend?
What classes are you in? How are they?
What kind of music do you like?
Have you seen this or that movie?
So on....
Don't expect every moment to be filled with riveting conversation and the silences shouldn't be too awkward. But, if you feel the need to fill in the silence you'll probably start getting nervous and acting silly.
Look at this as an opportunity to get to know someone who's in a position to be a good friend.
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