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writes:Hi all ok so i could use some advice,,Basically this girl i was really close to we where knda sorta togather n a long distance relation ship,, well things where going good for awhile but she started goin with this guy she fell in love with him got pregnant and the relationship fell apart, well i recently went to visit her im over her cheating on me or breaking up with me and going back on all her promises like marrying me when she was old enough, i realize she was young and i may have expected to much from her at a young age. Ive known this girl since she was ten where 4 yrs apart in age we became good friends when she was 12 and our relationship got closer when she was 15. ok so we talked about getting married and things like that when she was old enough,, for the record didnt pressure her into anything she told me she loved me and she said she would marry me i never asked her and i even told her we should break up because im to much older and she cried and told me she knows what she wants. Ok so i would visit her frequently and we always had a good time but because of work i wasnt able to visit her for a yr n that time she grew distant finnaly after i badgered her about it she told me she had been seeing this guy broke up with him and started going with an old friend got pregnant and any way the guy cheated on her and the relation ship broke up pretty badly, well the way she explained what happened to me didnt make sence the guy didnt really cheat because she said they werent togather they where just sleeping togather,, but the guy got an std from this other girl that my friend doesnt like so she just cut off contact with him, but now shes pregnant. I kno she likes me and lately weve been talking more we stopped talking for months or longer while she was with him she never called me or talked to me to often so i let her go... well shes back in my life now part of me wants to forget her and move on she told me she loved me and she said things would have been different if the other guy hadnt come into her life,, she said alot of stuff i just feel like im the rebound guy but a part of me feels like shes serious. The other thing is i feel like im suposed to be with her because ive never had another relation ship, the few females ive started something with never went anywhere., my question is should i take this girl serious and persue her or put her on the just friends list and move on even though i have no one to move on to.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (15 June 2010):
 One girl is not the ONLY girl. There are others & it is very possible for you to be with someone else.
I believe that you need to move on, and open your eyes to the other fish in the sea. She is young and evidently despite what she's told you, she doesn't know what she wants. She's still young, and is still living freely as she pleases with little regard to your feelings. You seem to be a guy that has his head on straight as to where you know where you want to go & you intend on settling down. You need someone who has that same stability in their life & is willing to "GROW UP". She's the perfect mate, if you're looking for a yo-yo lifestyle, but don't settle for that.
Move on & live on.
All the best to ya! :)
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