A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello All, I have a problem.... When I was pregnant with my son 2 years ago, I was going through a lot of stress, and the emotional stress of having a baby, so under this pressure, and to me my son's father ability to not have ambition.... I broke up with my son's father.... He moved in with a girl from his past who is know as his rebound, she caused many problems in our relationship, because she is so willing to be his rebound at anytime. Another issue is our relationship.... We messed around occassionally during his time with her. I found myself engaging inthis behavior with him when I really felt lonely.... an dlike he forgot about me. The funny thing is he never gave me reason to feel this way.... He always called, kept in touch, ect...Well he stayed with her for a while because he had nowhere else to go. I had nowhere for him to come.... Well I recently have moved, and he recently got a job... He has now left the rebound girl again.... He asked to come move with me .... I was scared so I just didn't respond, or kept dodging the question... I feel so heartless.... He moved in with another girl he met through family acquaintances... he only been with her a month, he says he is not into her, and he thought he liked her, but sees he does not.... He says she parties like him, I think this is the turn off for him. So the big kicker..... He asked to come live with me now... OH BOY... I knew this was coming..... The most important part of this story I left out is the fact that I still love my son father, and would like to be with him, but now in my older years I feel we are on different levels in our life. I feel like I have been the one taking care of me and my son for the last two years, and now he sees I have never asked him for anything, I am happy, most important my son is happy.. and now you want to come back like permanently.... I am skeptical..... I know I still slept with him, but I kind of like the unattachment... See I know I expect too much for him.... And he is now just starting to see the big picture that "Family comes First"... I do commend him for trying to show me... but the past just keeps on getting in the way of my heart... MAny htings I cannot forget... LIke everytime we have a argument is he going to run to the rebound? My queston is should I follow my heart... of follow my gut, and what this man has shown me of hisself thus far? He is also offering to help with the bills and taking care of our child, he has always taken care of our child, the money is something new....:) but he also says if I say no to his coming to live with me... He is not staying with the new girl, and he guess he will have to go back to the rebound??? Is he giving me an Ultimatum?..... Thank You all in advance for you answers... I hope I filled you in enough to give me an answer.... Have a wonderful day everyone...
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (21 September 2007):
You don't need another child to take care of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Hello Hun,
I think you should not let fear ruin your life. as to no one gets far when they are always sitting on the side line. Hope this makes sense to you.
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