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writes:Well hellooo... its been awhile and I'm back! I'm now 38 weeks pregnant and my childs father still has nothing to do with us. I'm not entirely over it because its hard to understand how he loves and acknowledges his first born but not mine? How could he love one child and not the other(s)? Also, I'm wondering is taking him for a paternity (because he is saying our son isn't his) and child support something I should do right away or just leave him be? Its his big time loss but I'm confused... Reply to this Question
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Child support is not for you, it is for the support of your child. You both decided to lay down together, so you are both responsible to provide for your unborn child.
He needs to provide support.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Why be confused?
It's his baby, he should man up and at least be financially responsible.
When the baby is born, go to CS and do the DNA and file for child support. Now if YOU decide you don't want anything to do with him, you still need to do the DNA test and have him sign away his parental rights, however that would also mean you will not get a dime.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx guys, I know I cannot make a move until after my son is born. I don't see him coming around if he has ignored the situation the whole nine months. So yes your right, he would love to act like this situation never happened, I guess there will be hell to pay, he takes care of the other(s).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): You can't do anything until the baby is born. I would wait until then before acting but you should definitely spend this time researching all the procedures and options available to you.
OP he may actually decide to step up to the plate in that time too and if he doesn't at least you will be knowledgeable and prepared to do whatever is necessary to make him step up to his responsibilities.
Take this time away from him to get over him, focus on preparing for motherhood, reading up on what you need to do, how best to prepare financially etc and when the time comes re-approach him about the topic. Because this may just be a bit of bitterness on his part but he may come around once his feelings fade a bit. So give it a bit of time but do your homework. If he still won't step up, then fight him with everything you've got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): What is it to be confused about? Of course its time for him to pay up. If he believes that child isn t his than do paternity test, but definitely take him to court for child support.
It s hard enough to be single mother but on top of that having no financial support from a babys father?
Don't leave him be, of course he d want that very much, make him pay
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