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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so There is this guy that I cant seem to get out of my head. I recently broke up with my bf of 3 years. I am trying to date again, but i just cant. all i can seem to think about is this other guy. This guy was my ex bf's friend. But they are no longer friends because me and the guy messed around (after the breakup). We fooled around a few times, and I think there was actually a connection..but i dont know if he thought there was. He seemed ok after the first time, but the second time we messed around(things were much more heated and personal), he wanted to end it, and told me there could never be anything between us. He told me that he wants to stay friends. and we are..to an extent. We kind of went round and round for a while..he was really hesitant around me. So finally, one day i decided to talk to him about everything. I told him that i do have some interest in him, that i couldnt explain why either..and he said he feels the exact same. I told him that regardless, i love him as a friend, and he said he again, feels the exact same. There was also a time soon after where he gave me advice, and said that "it was out of love that...blah blah blah"I know he feels something for me, because there have been plently of talks where stuff comes up. And there is something about the way he looks at me...The problem is that he misses his ex gf..he said he wants to move on..but he just cant, and he has oppertunities, but he just cant let go. I feel like he is trying to almost make me jealous, maybe..like he wants me to say something. but anytime i even get remotely close to talking about it, he says he has to go..I just don't know if I should say something to him,because i really do like him..i cant show any interest in other guys..but i just don't know what to say and how to go about it. HELP!!!!
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reader, Mis.Natalie +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Dear Friend...
Well here is what I think ..
He maybe had told you that he fells the same just to not hurt your precious feelings …
And my darling if you are trying to move on you did because you obviously had relationship with another guy. It was all in the heat of the moment.. There’s plenty of fish in the sea to get stuck in an aquarium ..
And honey if he’s talking about his ex that’s given you a heads up trying to pull apart from you… and I think that you really need to talk to this Romeo and see what is up? To come clean about everything Take a day to write questions and what you would tell him .and think to your self if that’s what you really want in life a guy that has feelings for he’s ex? Or an other chance at love with a different air and a new bress because life is way to short to be waiting it on confusion and thoughts get on the go make your move and if he doesn’t do the next then he just really isn’t the one . and please know this Love comes and goes its all in the time and if you really want to move on you well, greatest of luck my dear! --Love Natalie
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