A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:There is a man that I love for his sweetness, dedication, compassion and honesty. He is a nice man, who has a great job and can provide a great future for any wife. We have had a great relationship for the past 2 years.However, there is a man that I have had a crush on for about 8-10 years. Every time I see him, goose bumps arise on my arms and my heart starts beatig fast. He contains all of the physical aspects that I am attracted to - tall, dark and handsome. I always believe that people in committed relationships should not cheat, but I could not contain these feelings any longer and gave in. We tried to have sex and everything was fine during foreplay. I was quite excited when I saw what he was working with and I wanted him even more. Once he started to penetrate, he could not perform. I wrote this incident off and we tried again. Yes, the same thing happened. I like this man so much that I want to try and see what I was missing. We tried for the third time and I was amazed. The passion was so great that I experienced multiple orgasms that I have never felt before. Either I am confusing really great sex or I am starting to fall for him. This man is 35 and recently separated from his wife for the last five years (they previously lived in another state together and she still lives out of state). He moved back to New York to begin his life over and become a plumber. His past life style was not the most impressive.I constantly want to be with this man and find myself lying to do so. I am confused as to whether I am in love or confused by how great the sex is with him. The sex is great with my boyfirend because I feel how much he loves me and I love him back. However, I cannot shake my feelings for this other man. He lights my fire.In starting a new year, I am wondering should I take a chance and lose out on a man who I do love and can provide for me, to be with someone who I cannot determine whether I will ever be more than sexual fling or be able to provide a serious relationship?
View related questions:
crush, foreplay, orgasm Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (2 January 2008):
 I believe it was Confucius who said, "Woman who stand on burning deck, get hot feet" . . . or maybe that was someone else who said that. Are your feet on fire? You've betrayed the trust in a man who loves you. The same man you purportedly love. I doubt that.
If you were a guy, I'd tell you that you let your little head do the thinking for your big head. Since your a woman, I'll tell you that you let your tiny head do the thinking.
You said, "I always believe that people in committed relationships should not cheat." That must be a real deep-seeded belief. LOL.
I hope your "boyfriend" finds out about your cheating and drops you like a bad penny. I seriously doubt that he wants a liar, a cheat, and a gold-digger for a wife anyway.
|
