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writes:15 years ago I sent the love of my life packing. I am 15 years older then him, back then he was in his early 20's and I was in my late 30's. Now he's in his late 30's and I'm in early 50's. A lot has happened to both of us during the last 15 years, I was married for 9 of those years to a man I was never in love with and he had a relationship with a woman that he never married but had a child with that he has full custody of. After a long internet search I located him and called him. He was receptive to my call and we talked for a long time. It's been almost a year now and we keep in contact but not on a regular basis. This past Saturday night he called and we talked for 3 hours. He lives in NY and I live in SC. I want so badly to go and see him but I'm afraid if I go I won't want to leave. We've talked about my visiting and we're both afraid of the consequences, he's not going to leave NY and I can't leave SC right now because of a sick parent. After our converstation Saturday night everytime I close my eyes I have flashbacks of our relationship. We were so in love, but we got such flack for the age difference that I finally caved and sent him home. It broke both of our hearts but at the time I felt it was the right thing to do. So now he's a single father trying hard to keep everything together for him and his son and I want so badly to be a part of their lives. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should just go to NY and visit and see what happens or continue to sit down here in SC and fret about wanting to be there and never knowing what could be. I love him, not the way I did but I know I could again. Am I foolish to think we could ever work this out? Should I throw caution to the wind and just take a chance? Reply to this Question
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reader, PandaRawr +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Take the chance.
Me and my fiance are 16 years apart...
We get along great, and people are more understanding of age differences now. Even if they weren't, it wouldn't matter. If you two make eachother happy, that is ALL that matters.
Go for it.
If it works, wonderful, I wish you the very best of luck.
If not, you've saved yourself from what ifs, and regrets.
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reader, L*  +, writes (17 August 2009):
If I were you, I'd take a chance. what have you got to lose? if it doesn't work out you can then move on, but at least you would have tried. good luck, I hope everything works out well for you.
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reader, Sarah Love +, writes (17 August 2009):
I would take a chance and go see him. Who knows, you might have a great love affair with him.
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