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writes:is this mean..my boyfriends at work and i want to move him out..i will rent apartment, put his things in there and leave it at that..tonight i want to take my keys off his key ring, take my car key off his ring and put a note on door when he comes home with his new address..what do you think?I like to avoid avoid avoid and i dont think i can deal with the drama of a breakup. getting apartment is easy im a apartment manager..i can evict him if he doesn't pay. I just cant deal with this pain any more. I see no way out..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): I think that is a good idea. But if he can't pay bills, I think he is going to know that even if you got him an apartment, that he will eventually get evicted b/c he has no way to pay. So why not just tell him to get the hell out & let him go crawl in with a relative or a friend? He sounds like a loser anyways..the apartment thing may be a good idea, but you should get your lock changed before you do it, so that he can't get into your place & do something to you. Also, are you sure you want him to live in the same apartment complex as you do?? He sounds like the kind of person who you don't really want living near by.
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reader, lovelost +, writes (31 October 2007):
lovelost is verified as being by the original poster of the question hi, thank for your help..update..i never signed a lease. i pay all the bills, if i let him move to another apartment then. if he doesn't pay i will have to evict him. I dont have him, I just hate what he has done to me. Narcissist comes to mind.. abuse, everything is fine as long has hes happy.. too many ups and downs.. im just hoping looking at him face to face to break up, i will not fall for his lines that everything will get better...because it doesn't and frankly its killing me
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Hello.
AT last a woman a kin to my own heart what a wonderful idea, i wish i had a plan like that years ago, but coming back to the real world, as much has i love your idea,it would not be the right thing to do, you need to see him face to face and tell him what you really think and then throw him out, believe me you will feel a lot better, and then you wont have to worry were he lives.
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 It is understandable that you want to avoid this tricky situation, but this is definitely not the way to do it. Wait for him to get home. Sit him down - and break up with him to his face. But do it tonight. Don't wait any longer. Offer your help in finding him an apartment, but tell him you would like him out ASAP. As in tomorrow. Give him the respect to at least know what went wrong - even if he can't mend it.
This way - you will have maybe 2 more days of discomfort - and then you can move on with your life. Your way, will cause him a lot of confusion, and you will have to live with the guilt. Living with guilt is no way of getting it over as soon as possible...
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I wouldn't rent him a new apartment, I'd just kick him out! nothing wrong with whatn your doing, if he treated you right you would respect him enough to dump him face to face.
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