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writes:I have been at a sports company, coming up to nine years. enjoy the job I do and sending off football teams across the country. the assistant boss who has a sister, her sister has grassed on me, because I’ve supposedly called her some name and is trying to sabotage my job and trying to get me the sack. I’m aware she doesn’t like me, that’s fine, not many do and that’s their issue and isn’t my problem. I’m always courteous to people, I do not swear and treated everyone with respect, even if they don’t with me. my friends are fifty fifty and don’t know who to believe as she has spurn everything round and made me out to be the bad guy. as well as that, a friend who I thought was, has decided to back stab me in the back and is now saying I’ve over messaged her and been bothering her, which is not true, the messages are months apart from each other and the only time we talk is only on her birthday, which is near september. she blocked me on facebook for no apparent reason, and disappeared as quick as houdini in a magic show. should I create another facebook and try to explain or will I make things worse for myself? do I sue work for discrimination against me and also for loss of earnings?sorry if this is long.hope you’re able to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2022):
he isn’t interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2022): I think you're intelligent enough to know that if you're blocked from contact; you don't go create a fake account to contact someone anyway!!! You'll discredit yourself and destroy your integrity; and you'll also give her legal evidence that you're bothering or harassing her.
I wouldn't be too proud to admit not many people like you. There has to be something about your personality or character that would make that so. It might shift all empathy over to her side; if everybody is aware of that. It's one thing not to care what people think; but to be so arrogant as to be generally disliked, and not care about that, is another. Especially, when your own friends are skeptical about your side of the issue.
You can't force anybody to like you. If you decide to file a complaint after the fact, it would best be done under the advice of legal counsel. I wouldn't go dragging something like this up to Human Resources at this point in time; because it is likely they'll circle the wagons and go into self-protection mode. There is a pending accusation already in progress. It's better to let your lawyer tell you what to do, if you feel someone is trying to get you fired; or has conspired to get you suspended or reprimanded.
I sense in my bones, this may be the result of an on-the-job flirtation gone-wrong; or the result of dating at the workplace. It just doesn't make sense she's coming after your job for meanness, or just for sport. Look where she'd be placing herself, and could compromise her own integrity. Maybe you said something off-the-cuff, and she must have caught wind of it; or someone did stab you in the back by telling her. There is something behind all this motivating her to seek vengeance. I deeply suspect you're holding back some important details, my friend.
If you do seek legal advice, be straightforward and completely honest with your attorney. If you've done something you're not admitting to us, and nasty details finally come-out; you'll not only be humiliated, but could most certainly lose your job!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2022): Why don't you complain to your immediate boss and see what he says. I am sure if you have any faults he will be the first to warn you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 January 2022):
 Should you create another Facebook account?
Absolutely NOT!
As for suing your job for discrimination? I don't know, I'd probably talk to HR and get some LEGAL advice before trying to SUE anyone. Do you have proof of anything? I mean in order to SUE someone you have to PROVE they DID something.
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