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writes:I have bein going with my girlfriend for ten years and the orther night she went out and had a few drinks and slept on a couch by or self . The next day I found out their was a male friend beside her then she confessed and sai. She slept in the middle of these two mates .when ever I ask her did anything happen or did they try it on she says I told you nothing happend and to stop going on about it . Should I stop going on about it ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2014): She slept on a couch with two other guys. She kept it a secret from you, her BF, until you found out from the guys joking about it.
If she doesn't understand that this is a serious problem then she doesn't understand how to be in a relationship. Whether she did anything with them or not, she showed a serious lack of respect for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2014): I found out she had done it when her two male mates were joking about it . Like were they slept on the couch the next day
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2014): I found out she had done it when her two male mates were joking about it . Like were they slept on the couch the next day
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (16 December 2014):
Yes I Think you should stop going on about it. What you need to do is decide for yourself if this is a deal-breaker or not. Many people would think that it was.If it's a deal-breaker - dump her. No discussion required.If you want to forgive her - forgive her. And if you're forgiving her, you need to let it go and not dwell on it.She's said that "nothing happened" but that you don't believe her. If you NEED to keep asking her "What really happened", then there's probably only one answer that would satisfy you and that would be if she admits to cheating. What if nothing DID happen? Will you believe her if you ask her over and over again and get the same answer?If this is a deal-breaker for you, dump her. You don't need her to "confess to futher transgressions" so don't pump her for further information.How did you find out she'd done it?
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