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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone I'm in a situation were I'm losing all my friends.It has to do with my ex and I remaining friends. Anyway my ex and I was together a year and 3 months and it was the worst relationship of my life! We couldn't get along we was constantly fighting. We rushed things really fast. We started talking for about 2 weeks then he spent the night and we had sex then we dated a month and he moved in. We didn't take the time to know each other at all. We broke up a month ago and hes dating someone new but he still wants me in his life. He said hr didn't wanna lose me out of his life. He said he wanted us to be friends and hangout and just have fun and get to know each other better and see where it leads us to. He said I was really the only person he had that he could hangout with and stuff. He said he spends more time with me then he does with his girlfriend. He even said he didnt care if his girlfriend found out about us hanging out. She does watch my Facebook to see what I post on there for whatever reason. He said that he was only with her because he was affriad of being alone. He's helping me better mine and my daughters life. He paid for me to go to college. And he's been there for me more then anyone. Right now our bond that we have together is so strong its so hard to explain. We get along great and it feels like we never even broke up. We are both happier then ever and we both still love each other I guess that's why we are still hanging on. He's not using me for anything at all or playing with my feelings we have planed at road trip together. For next weekend. But my friends are ditching me one by one because him and I are still friends. I just can't get them to understand that how strong him and I have become and how happy I am for once. The feeling is amazing .Should I stop being friends with him to keep my friends or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2014): You friends are much smarter than you are.
They've had enough of you and your drama, and a guy who is obviously playing you. He has a girlfriend, you had a horrid relationship to start.
There is only so much you can sit-by and watch, as a friend. It's better to just move on; and let you make your own decisions without getting into your business.
I would have stood-by you when you were having issues the first go-round. I would be your support, while you got over leaving him.
I would bail like the rest are doing with this mess you're living in now with that asshole. I'd move-on, and I wouldn't look back. People who make a mess of their lives are best left to their own devices.
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